Janet009
Mar 15, 2009, 05:52 AM
My husband left me when my daughter was only 3. I brought her up myself, always worked full time and even completed a post graduate course which I had started just 2 months before he left so I could earn a bit more. I did my very best for my daughter and avoided spoiling her. I put my own life on hold as she came first which I don't regret.
My daughter is now 22 and has lived with her boyfriend for the past 3 years. He has hit her in the past - her dad and I tried to help, but she wouldn't leave him. I was worried sick.
I love her to bits - like most mothers do - but now, she no longer discusses her home life, and I don't see her as much as I would like. I live on my own. Its always me who e-mails or phones her but usually, she is too busy to see me. I know she has her own life, and I respect that.
She shows me no respect and ended my last call to her telling me to f*** Off! (I usually phone her once a week) This really upset me (I have never condoned swearing) and didn't deserve her slamming the phone down on me. She is fed up at the moment as isn't enjoying her job, I asked if there was anything I could do to cheer her up. She said, only her boyfriend can do that, which is fair enough. However, she said I always show her up! Don't know where that came from! I asked her if she would rather me not contact her, which caused the expletive and her to slam down the phone.
I have no family to speak of. Parents are dead, and two brothers live opposite sides of the country and have always got on with their lives and they don't keep in touch. Sorry, sounds like I feel sorry for myself, but I am generally happy and get on with life.
Friends are a great help, but I just feel so sad that I can't have a good relationship with my daughter.
I don't know whether to wait for her to contact me, or get in touch with her when she has calmed down. Its her birthday next week, and I had offered to treat her.
My daughter is now 22 and has lived with her boyfriend for the past 3 years. He has hit her in the past - her dad and I tried to help, but she wouldn't leave him. I was worried sick.
I love her to bits - like most mothers do - but now, she no longer discusses her home life, and I don't see her as much as I would like. I live on my own. Its always me who e-mails or phones her but usually, she is too busy to see me. I know she has her own life, and I respect that.
She shows me no respect and ended my last call to her telling me to f*** Off! (I usually phone her once a week) This really upset me (I have never condoned swearing) and didn't deserve her slamming the phone down on me. She is fed up at the moment as isn't enjoying her job, I asked if there was anything I could do to cheer her up. She said, only her boyfriend can do that, which is fair enough. However, she said I always show her up! Don't know where that came from! I asked her if she would rather me not contact her, which caused the expletive and her to slam down the phone.
I have no family to speak of. Parents are dead, and two brothers live opposite sides of the country and have always got on with their lives and they don't keep in touch. Sorry, sounds like I feel sorry for myself, but I am generally happy and get on with life.
Friends are a great help, but I just feel so sad that I can't have a good relationship with my daughter.
I don't know whether to wait for her to contact me, or get in touch with her when she has calmed down. Its her birthday next week, and I had offered to treat her.