OK there's this guy that I fell in love with at skool and he was my first love and we flirted forever basiclaly we acted like we went out when we weren't because he was waiting for this other chick (I know he totally played me but I didn't care) and then he took me on a date and gave me my first kiss :) and then a week later went out with my friend but dumped her for the girl he was waiting for and they went out for 3 months and she dumped him and he came back to me and we went out (my first boyfirend) but he dumped me a day later because he wasn't ready for a relationship and I cried the whole day and then he said he wanted to go out like a week later and I said no because it just didn't feel rite and then I don't know what happened I felt really atached and so we still flirted and then he siad he was falling in love with me. Then he totally ditched me for his ex on a Friday saying he was going to get with her and I was depresed the hole wekend and then Sunday told me he made out with her 3 times and didn't feel rite with her so he said he wouldn't ever get wit her again aand we were still flirting and then he ditched me because he said he was isck of hurting me so you and this whole thing sounds pitiful but I'm like really atached to him now and I don't know if I can let go.. can anyone helpp because I tried getting over him since octoboer/novemeber 2008 and I did at a pt in February but fell again and now I'm stuck again and I don't want to stpend another 5 months hurting :confused:

This isn't real love, it's infatuation. You like the bad boy, the boy that can't commit, and that just wants to please himself. Not the best trait. Sorry to be so blunt.

NOW, what are you doing to occupy your time while this healing process is taking place? You're letting him come back to you. You're letting him set you on the back burner for when he needs/wants you again. That's not right. Don't let him take advantage of you that way.

There will be a far better come along someday, trust me. How old are you, by the way?

You need to be hanging out with friends, doing fun projects, and spending time with family instead of thinking of this guy. You have to occupy your time with positive people and experiences, so that the negative fades out. And it will. I was with my first love for 6 years, and it took a while to get over him. But I did. By focusing on the positive in my life, and delving face first into school work.

I am 14 :) but like I don't know its really hardd

Im 14

I know it's hard. But you have to focus on the positive!

But the horrible thhng is I want him back andit feels like I can't live without him :(

You can definitely live without him. Focus on the good things in your life, and that will come to light. Don't let him drag you to his level, you're better than that. This guy has hurt you, don't let it happen. Stand up for yourself and say, "I'm a strong person, and can dictate what happens in my life, and I choose to not let myself be hurt."

NO CONTACT is best.

Thank you guys I'm finally over him :D

I told you. Congrats. Best of luck to you in the future!

Thank you well at least I'm prety sure I did because I still kind of miss what we do (not him) and wish I could have that feeling again and then I don't want to go out with him again because he will hurt me so you help am I really over him

Woooww this sounds like something I'm going through too and I just stay there and get hurt every time and idc either but mine has been going on for a year now and he loved me but I don't know if those feelings are there anymore you just need to move on like I'm trying to do it mightt be hard but in the long run it's the best less stress.. .