We've been together for almost 9 yrs & he says that we can get married yet because the kids are so bad that if we ger married he has to take them on also. I feel that he knew that when we got together & don't know if I should just give up on us? I love him but am tired of it, we do live together. Please give me some suggestions on what to do...

Your already married...

As far as getting that piece of paper and using the kids being bad as an excuse not to get married, that is all it is.. Is there anything that is in his past that stops him from seeing marriage. Your together for 9 years is that not commitement enough? Maybe he is afraid that getting married will change things.

I'm confused? How are the kids? If they are bad, shouldn't that be a priority, and if they are not, do you not take that as a personal insult?

He doesn't want to take the leap yet and after 9 years he is just comfortable with the way things are.

Btw, are the kids his? I don't understand how the kids are an issue when he is still with you and the two of you are living together.

Chuff I agree with you too but couldn't give you a greenie but was told to spread the rep instead so here it is.

I don't know, if he doesn't want to get married maybe he isn't ready!
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