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notwhoyouthink
Mar 12, 2009, 11:13 AM
Me and my boyfriend had been together for almost 8 months. I was very mature, he wasn't.
At first I was very harsh to him about it, but recently I tried to apologize and be better. Which I was. Even he admitted it.
Then he dumped me. He said:

"I haven't been happy for awhile, I don't know why. I need time to figure out what i want, and i'm not sure about us"
He told me he hasn't been happy for awhile, but he made it look like it was college stress.

Am I a constant reminder that he needs to grow up, and that's why he left?

Is he mad that during a fight a week ago, I made him cry because he thought we would break up? Is he scared now?

Did we move too quickly and he got bored?


Up until three hours before he dumped me, he kept huggin me, kissing me, and telling me that I have nothing to worry about.

And now he has gone and added this girl he hooked up with two years ago on Facebook after I asked him to delete her.

This is his week of spring break.



So basically, does he really need time to figure things out alone, or is he interested in this girl again?

b8begirl16
Mar 12, 2009, 11:24 AM
Well there could be 2 reasons for his behavior... you mentioned this is his week of spring brk... its possible that he is trying to have his cake and eat it too.. meaning, he wants to hook up with other grls while on brk but he can't do that if he's still with you so he fed you a bunch of bull to justify him breaking up with you... totally imature! If he tries to get back with you after his break then this is what he was doing... however, if after the break he still doesn't want to be with you, it could mean that he felt like you were trying to change him by telling him he's too imature and he got tired of it and really wasn't happy... now he feels that the facebk grl... isnt going to judge him or ask anything of him since they're just hooking up and he likes that...

notwhoyouthink
Mar 12, 2009, 11:35 AM
He only hooked up with her once. He told me that at the time, he knew she had a boyfriend, and he still went along with it, because she was so good at listening to his problems.

I was never very good at listneing to him, because I had so much going on myself.

Could he just want someone that wants to listen to him, with a small possibility of sex?