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Howard1752
Mar 9, 2009, 06:59 AM
My wife and I have been denied the ability to see our grandchildren for the past 1 1/2 years. Two years ago our 2nd son got married and just after their hooneymoon, they announced that she was pregnant. There was a probem with the delivery and we were at the hospital all the time until the doctors said that he would be fine. The next time after in the hopsital we were able to see him is at his Baptizism. From that point on, my son told me that he did not want us to be a part of his life so we could forget about seeing our grandchildren. There is a somewhat complicated relationships between me and my son, however until that point, as long as I paid for a great deal of the wedding, we were close. It changed overnight. He is also angry at my wife, my other son and his wife and his younger sister. There is absolutely no contact. BTW they live only about 1/2 hour from us. Please see if there is something we can do to be able to see our grandchildren. Thank you!

JudyKayTee
Mar 9, 2009, 07:05 AM
What State? It varies.

My feeling is that if your son does not want you to have contact with the grandchild he feels he can back up his concerns (you have said your situation is "complicated") and you could very well lose in Court (if it's an option in your State).

ScottGem
Mar 9, 2009, 07:36 AM
State laws vary on Grandparent rights. You would have to review the laws in your state. But if your son wants to estrange himself ffrom his family, there is probably not a lot you can do about it.

stevetcg
Mar 9, 2009, 01:43 PM
In the 20 or so states that I have reviewed, grandparent visitation is almost exclusively granted when the grandparent's link to the child is through the non custodial parent.

You cannot force your child to be a part of your life and by extension, you cannot force your relationship with his children.

I'm sorry, and if you let us know where you are we can research it a bit more, but I've read a bunch of these laws and they are generally similar. The laws are usually put in place because of the strained relationship between the custodial parent and the ex-spouse.

My advice would be to work on your relationship with your child. By extension this will allow a relationship with his children.