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rawr_itssonya
Mar 9, 2009, 05:37 AM
Well I've been single for almost a year now since I broke up with my loser ex bf(yay), and ever since I broke up with him one main goal was to make new friends. Over the summer I made tons of new friends(especially males) mostly because I was back on the market. One particular friend who's pretty much been there for me since my initial breakup, is my best friend(who happens to be of the opposite sex) who I've been hanging out with all the time for the past year now. At first there wasn't much of a spark, just a realization that we were physically attracted to each other and that was that, but lately we've been going on 1-on-1 dates and hanging out a lot more. I've totally fallen for this guy and everything about him(he's a guitarist, very cute, has a job, nice car, good personality, nice person, loyal friends, ect) but there's just one thing- he's just not that into me. While I can accept that he doesn't find me as attractive as I find him, and I really do want to move on, how can I move on when we're best friends and every time I see him I get all fuzzy inside. He never said in words that he didn't like me, but I get the hint that he doesnt(if he did we'd be a couple by now). Sooo my question is, how do you fall out of love with your best friend?

mudweiser
Mar 9, 2009, 10:07 AM
How to fall out of love? Stop talking to him and spending time with him.

MRS.S

liz28
Mar 9, 2009, 01:30 PM
You need to take the focus off him and maybe cut back the time you spend him. Get out and meet new friends or spend some time with your other friends. If your looking for a man then get out and find someone available and single.

On a side note him not liking could be a good thing because what would had happen if the two of you started something than it ended? You might have lost a friend and after all good friends are hard to find and it isn't uncommon that when friends of the opposite sex becomes friends one person starts taking a liking to the other and wants more. You just have to learn to control your feelings.