So this is kind of a long story, I'll start from the beginning

I was 15, she was 14, we felt desperately in love with each other, her friends started to disappear because we loved to be together and we were eachother's best friends. We had lovely time and we rarely fought. Now its 2½ years later and I began to feel scared of losing her, so I started to push her slowly away from me because I loved the idea of her trying to hold on to me tighter

It didn't work out, she got sad and stopped on trying harder, we got angry because we didn't talk and we said things we didn't mean. Then one day I had a huge hangover and I said it's over, she cried a lot, I left and instantly when I left our apartment and got to my old home I texted her that it was a mistake to do this.

She agreed and we made a deal to keep abit distance for a month or so and then start all over again. First 2 weeks she never contacted me, I was desperate crying all night long trying to think what to do to get her back.

Now its been one month, it's her birthday tomorrow and it's women's day in Finland on Sunday, so I'm giving her a book, a shirt, chocolate and ten roses as a gift. We're meeting at the Coffee House in the centrum.

We wen't to the movies on Wednesday and we had a blast, we talked so much and she had these reflexes to touch me but every time she tried to do it she stopped and got kind of confused. We really enjoyed the movie and laughed a lot and it was all like we had never broke up in the first place.

Now 2 days later she's all cold again, not talking to me about anything when I ask her and she seems very distant.

She didn't have any friends when we were together but I had, she has got a lot new friends now ( !ONLINE FRIENDS! ) from World of Warcraft and she's been desperately webcamming with my old mates from WoW... she says she's really lonely in the real life and all she does is sit on PC until 5am chatting on msn because she's scared of being alone

She also said she wants to be wild and free for awhile and blablalba fall in love with someone else, I think she's scared of falling in love with me again...

I've already moved on, I've been on about 8 gigs of my favourite bands after we broke up and been on 2 dates with the girls I like. But I still love my ex, she's the one for me and we fit together perfectly, I don't NEED her back because I'm lonely, I don't NEED her back for any reason. I just WANT her back because she's the girl I'm in love with...

Now I know moving on and meeting other people should be the right thing to do and just forget about her and learn from my mistakes, but we really didn't have a proper reason to break up and now she's just happy to be alone because she can be an individual again, but she doesen't remember the good times we had and that she could be individual person and hang out with her friends but still have someone who loves and cares and waits for her when she gets home...



So, what to do to get her back? Im looking good and I'm happy with my life, but I'd like to make this girl fall in love with me again by being myself, but what if she's too scared and doesen't let me? Should I keep talking to her and taking her out even if she seems resistant? Or just ignore her until she crawls back to me?

Honestly this is a hard decision, it normal that you still love her and she problay feels the same way but a little confused. And yes when you try to get over someone they always try to come back when they see your doing good , in my opinion I believe time can only tell what if she going to change or if you two will be together again. But YOU CAN ONLY MAKE THE DECISION IF YOU WANT HER BACK IN YOUR LIFE . "If it meant to be , then it meant to be"

Honestly this is a hard decision, it normal that you still love her and she problay feels the same way but a little confused. And yes when you try to get over someone they always try to come back when they see your doing good , in my opinion i believe time can only tell what if she going to change or if you two will be together again. But YOU CAN ONLY MAKE THE DECISION IF YOU WANT HER BACK IN YOUR LIFE . "If it meant to be , then it meant to be"

update:

I went to see her today, I bought her the book " Little Prince ", roses, chocolate and gave her a shirt that she had lost along time ago that I once gave her when we were together.

We went to the coffee shop and first she seemed sad because she didn't want to be there.
After we got our hot cocoas we started to talk and laugh again and we had such a great time.

then I gave her the roses, my present and told that I have to go now.
We walked in front of a bookstore and she said she'll try to catch the bus and we hugged and I told her happy birthday. I had to run into the bookstore because tears flooded my eyes as she felt so good and soft when I hugged her. I've been hugging other girls and I feel nothing...

We didn't make any plans to ever meet again but I still have my electric guitar and my amplifier at her house so I have to at least pick them up.

By the way, I'm having bad health condition as I got very severe migrene that causes me to puke 1-3 times a day, I'm going to massager, dentist and the eye doctor, I've been rejected from the Army of Finland because of my health condiiton, my left eye is also losing its vision and I've faded 3 times already.

She kept asking me why I faded earlier in the toilet, and I didn't tell her the reason, because it was too hard.
The reason was that I was washing my teeth, reading totally random donald duck I grabbed from my book shelve, and I was reading this story... And on one of the pages she had written " If you ever find or read this, remember that i'll always love you and be yours <3 - Your XXXXXX " I ripped off the page and put it on the last page of the book I gave her.

Well I see your also going through a lot. All I can say if it meant to be it meant to be. Maybe you guys taking slow might be helping you two. Only time can tell but I wish for the best.

Well i see your also going through alot. All i can say if it meant to be it meant to be. Maybe you guys taking slow might be helping you two. Only time can tell but i wish for the best.

Myeh I'm trying to take it slow on her but I fear that if I get too distant she just forgets me and decides not to even try it out with me, that its too painful to even be my friend or start dating me again. I just want to show her how good I can be and who I really am.

As you both grow into adulthood, you both will change, and she is changing before your really ready. It happens, and you must learn to cope with your feelings, and fears, in an adult way and let her go, so you can grow, and learn about yourself.

Sorry for your loss, but its time to face life alone, and learn to be happy with yourself. YOU can't control how another feels, no matter how deeply you feel.

Read the stickies at the top and NC, in time you will heal.

Sorry for your loss

As you both grow into adulthood, you both will change, and she is changing before your really ready. It happens, and you must learn to cope with your feelings, and fears, in an adult way and let her go, so you can grow, and learn about yourself.

Sorry for your loss, but its time to face life alone, and learn to be happy with yourself. YOU can't control how another feels, no matter how deeply you feel.

" You can never be truly happy with someone unless you're first happy alone "

I'm going by that rule and I'm enjoying the time I'm spending alone and with my friends. Tho I'm still a kid, just turning 18 this summer and I still have " my whole life ahead of me " I still will miss the girl I met when I was a kid, I will always remember how well we fit together and the fact that maybe it wasn't the right thing to grow apart. Maybe we should've grown up together spending the time of our lives.

I considder myself as if I'd already moved on, because I don't think my life will be miserable without her, I'll never find anybody like her or anything like that. I'm happy alone, but I'd sure be a lot more happier if we could start all over again.

I'll never find anybody like her or anything like that

We all think that after a break up, but we find someone even better. In time.

We all think that after a break up, but we find someone even better. In time.

Yep that's what I said, let me rephrase, I KNOW I will find someone, even a better girlfriend, that's why I considder myself as I've moved on. But if I wouldn't have never dated her, I'd still like to take her, I'f I could choose I'd pick her as my GF, but I can't pick.

So what should I do to move on, but move on so that I could start over with her someday in the future. Like I said I got plenty of girls and friends in my life, but I still want to do stuff with her, I want to ask her to go to some gigs with me and grab a coffee or something. I'd still rather do it with her than somebody else.

What's done is done, I need to learn from my mistakes. I'd never push her away again, so how can I try to make her fall in love with me again instead of pushing her away and forcing her to choose someone else. She's obviously scared of falling for me again because she thinks she'll miss out on her life if she gets back together with me.