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kimmy2081
Mar 5, 2009, 07:32 AM
I have been with my boyfriend for awhile now and while sex with him is enjoyable he doesn't always "get off." More often then not he doesn't and I am wondering if there is something I can do to help him. We have tried different positions, different kinds of foreplay and oral sex. He has told me that this has been a problem for him with all his relationships but I can't help but feel like I am doing something wrong. Any advice?

smoothy
Mar 5, 2009, 07:57 AM
He needs to be seeing a doctor.

simoneaugie
Mar 5, 2009, 12:31 PM
Does he masturbate? If so, he should take a break from it. The hand is a very different feeling from either mouth or vagina.

Unlike us girls, guys have to ejaculate. He's doing it somewhere, sometime, just not with you most of the time.

He is not a bad guy and you are not doing everything wrong. Talk to him about solving the problem. Even if it's not a problem for him, it's one for you.

MsEmily
Mar 5, 2009, 02:32 PM
Actually, men don't have to ejaculate regularly to stay healthy.

It is possible that if he is masturbating and able to reach orgasm, but is unable to reach orgasm during intercourse, that there may be something psychological going on, not physical. Therefore, you should look for a qualified sex therapist in your area.

If he can't orgasm during masturbation either, than he needs to see a Urologist.