I'm in high school now and the actions of girls and women in general have started to disgust me. Their inferiority, disloyalty, differences from boys, stupidity, and their power over men sickens me. I don't want to be a sexist and I don't want to turn out being gay (not that there is anything wrong with that) when I grow up. I don't know where these ideas came from but its just all the things I saw around me and the classical texts I read depicting woman as disloyal and untrustworthy influenced my thoughts. What can I do to stop feeling this way?

I really don't want to offend any women out there, so I'm really sorry if reading this bothered you. Please don't judge me harshly.

I suggest you start meeting the right women who can change your mind. How do you feel about your Mom and Grandma,aunts,sisters?

It is never wise to paint with such a big brush.That is like saying all guys are jerks,its just not true.

Women have not and never will be inferior to men.We have many assets that are unique to our sex.

I suspect that growing up will have a big impact on your narrow mindedness and chauvinism.

Artlady answered wisely, mine is somewhat the same. I suggest that you stop allowing such messages to envelop your mind. You are young and there is nothing easy about youth... NOTHING... at every corner there are unchartered obstacles to overcome and difficult people girls and boys to deal with. Perhaps you should go to your Pastor/Priest or other religious leader for the biblical solutions to your problem.

Wow! I think it's amazing that you recognize that this is wrong and are willing to talk about it.

Women are depicted in very negative terms and a lot of them buy into the idea that they are unintelligent or that their only role is to entertain men and hopefully be supported.. The disloyalty is really just a guy's perspective, that's all. Most women feel that at least one man they've dated has been disloyal.

Anyway, Lots of women are very intelligent, have good jobs, are independent, etc.

On average, women are just as intelligent as men, so get the idea out of your head that they are stupid. The teenage girls at your high school may play a little dumb (while the boys try to pretend they are smarter than they are ), but there's nothing to it. Likewise, women are not less loyal. In fact, I would probably say that on average women are more loyal to their families than men. But the important thing to remember is that these are individual traits. It doesn't matter what the average is. What matters is the character of the person you are with.

I'm in high school now and the actions of girls and women in general have started to disgust me. Their inferiority, disloyalty, differences from boys, stupidity, and their power over men sickens me. I don't want to be a sexist and I don't want to turn out being gay (not that there is anything wrong with that) when I grow up. I don't know where these ideas came from but its just all the things I saw around me and the classical texts I read depicting woman as disloyal and untrustworthy influenced my thoughts. What can I do to stop feeling this way?

I really don't want to offend any women out there, so I'm really sorry if reading this bothered you. Please don't judge me harshly.

I can sort of see where you are coming from. When I was in high school, and college for that matter, I had very few female friends. I had male friends, and found I had much more in common with them. They weren't dieting all the time, plotting to get some guy, plucking their eyebrows and spending their money on makeup. They were FUN and rode bikes, watched baseball, went ice-fishing and hung out. My three best friends were male.

That being said, people change, and grow up. We all grow up. But what does that mean. With the women I described, they find their way, and feel comfortable in their own skin. They became confident, trustworthy, hard working. Many have married and had successful marriages and great kids. Others found different paths. But, all of them changed.

Boys and girls develop differently as well. The behaviour you see now in these girls will not be the same in a few years. Growing up means developing what you need to survive in this world, with all the necessary tools to do so, like work ethic, loyalty, an education, etc. Once a life becomes independent, so too does the individual.

Give them time, you will find the traits that you think define them now, to be completely different before you know it.

What are the specific things in high school girls that disgust you?

What makes you think they are inferior to men generally and you specifically?

How did your father treat your mother? Or how was your mothers relationship if any? Just curious if home life has any influence on the way you veiw women??

My father treated my mother well... most of the time. I had a strange relationship with my mother. She loved my older brother more than me and thought of him as the ideal human being... although he was far from it. She never hated me, she treated me fine. But I never liked her. Sure she wasn't horrible, she was pretty great actually fulfilling the duties a mother should fulfill and even more. But I just never liked her for some reason. I always looked up to my dad.

What are the specific things in high school girls that disgust you?

What makes you think they are inferior to men generally and you specifically?

They're all... you know stupid and stuff. Immature. They think everything is super cute and stuff... hard to explain! And I see them as inferior to men because of the way they act. Despite the several exceptions, they always need a big strong guy to watch out for them. Of course they give birth and but they have ALLOWED society to degrade them.. and for that they are less deserving of respect. No offense girls...

I think the person you don't like is yourself. Maybe you think girls have expectations you don't feel you can live up to, so you transfer your hate to them. You blame them for your feeling bad about yourself.
It may do you some good to talk to a professional. You are too young to have such feeling towards women and yourself.
How old are you?

Anybody that has such an hatred for others, obviously have that hatred within themselves about themselves.

I think in time you will view women differently in time... Maybe your going through a rough time or a low point with women... But in time maybe you will be gay and /or maybe you will find a woman that changes your view point. Just take time out for yourself and not try to look or judge a girl.

I agree. There is something in you that you don't like for you to be talking like this. If girls bother you that much then don't pay any attention to them. Your almost coming across to me as being obsessed with girls actions. If you don't like girls or how they act and talk, hang out with the guys. Who cares. I have three images in my head of you. As you grow older you will... 1) change your opinion because there will be special girl that won your heart 2) keep your same attitude and treat women terribly and with no respect and be married and divorced several times 3) your just gay and don't know how to accept it...

I'm young.. still in high school :)

I'm young..still in high school :)

Then now is a good time to get some help. Your dislike and opinions about females are extreme. Did some girl do or say something to you to hurt your feelings?
How old are you?

I think your in a difficult time in your life right now... I think you said you were 14 years old... puberty kicked in etc.. etc...

Your question asks: how can I stop hating women.

Your last question was: how can I stop being attracted to women .

I think you really need to talk to someone about how confused you are.

Maybe a mate or another member of your family who perhaps you are particularly close too...

I was wondering that myself. Hating women in one post but to attracted to them in another post. You think maybe he did fall for a woman and she hurt him or was mean to him? Is this the case?

I was wondering that myself. Hating women in one post but to attracted to them in another post. You think maybe he did fall for a woman and she hurt him or was mean to him? Is this the case?

You're pretty smart 88sunflower... that is the case. It happened over a year and a half a go, first time it happened and I want to make sure that it's the last time it happens. And I can't get the out of my head. I still have dreams of her (nothing preverted, just normal dreams). I'm not one of those people who take rejection or failure lightly, but I'm not a psycho or anything either! I promise :D Its just that I hate letting a girl get the best of me... [There used to be a bunch of additional info where this sentence is right now but I pressed delete because I felt all gay and girly, writing down my emotions, ugh] Can someone help me? And not in any emotional way, just tell me what to do so I can stop hating women and not be attracted to them either. Thanks :) I really appreciate you guys trying to help me out. Just don't judge me too harshly. And although I probably sound like it, I'm not crazy. I'm just a guy who's not used to getting screwed over, that got screwed over. :(

No one is judging you, but you are at an age where you are going to be attracted to girls. That is nature. Nothing you can do about that. What you can do is learn that in life there is rejection and hurt but you can learn to get past it and move on, this is why I suggest you talk to someone who can help you understand what happened and then get past it. A year and a half ago you were what 12/13, at that age you can exaggerate things or they can seem more serious than what they really are.

Talk to someone who can help you filter through this so that you can grow and develop as you should.

I had a feeling that's what happened.
If I felt hatred towards men every time I was hurt I would not be in a good spot today. Its going to happen. It's a part of life. Your going to always have an attraction to women. Some maybe respond to it, others may not. That's a part of life really. Your not getting over it because your obsessed with it. She was maybe your first love, or severe crush and she hurt you. There are still boys today from school I think about. But now, its not because they hurt me, I just think what there lives are like now. You need to realize its part of history, a new road has opened up. Take that journey and don't look back. It will never be what it was. Your hurting yourself more dwelling on it then just forgetting and moving on. Boys and men have emotions. Whatever you were going to write that was gay or girly is totally fine. I would never judge. Men shed tears. Men can have a broken heart. I think you just got a taste of what love and life is about. I think you must realize this isn't the last time you will be hurt. You have many years to find that special love. Until then focus on you. Learn from the past and move forward.

Keep in mind that high school is not like the adult world, it is a "Lord of the Flies" kind of world where there is a lot of immaturity, cliques where the "in crowd", mainly jocks and preppies think they are better than everyone else. I was also bitter about girls in high school because most of them would rather date the arrogant jock or tattooed troublemaker instead of the smart nice guys. Remember that once you finish school and enter the real world, you will meet lots of mature, kind people and I think it will improve your attitude not only towards women but life in general. Good luck.

I think the person you don't like is yourself. Maybe you think girls have expectations you don't feel you can live up to, so you transfer your hate to them. You blame them for your feeling bad about yourself.
It may do you some good to talk to a professional. You are too young to have such feeling towards women and yourself.
How old are you?

Agree

I agree. Way to young for these feelings. There will be a lifetime of hurt ahead of you, don't dwell on it now. But with that said, there will be a lifetime of happiness, laughter, love, confusion, loneliness, sadness, anger... its called the game of life. You live it. You can either learn from it or cave in to it.

Very true indeed sun

The truth is that women are human being just like you, flawed your always going to find something wrong with human beings. The real question is are you disgusted with them or with yourself? Are you really any better, think about it for a minute. Who needs to change them or you? Sometimes people will take the easy route and say "they need to change" but in truth change needs to start with you. I say this cause I grew up with 3 women no Dad for about 17yrs, then just 2 females for another 3yrs. It always felt like it was me versus them, but in fact I was just fighting my own self loathing and hate. God has really changed me in ways I couldn't had done on my own. Though I still struggle with it, it's steadily getting better. Don't know if that answers your question.

I understand where you're coming from. I'm an 18-year-old GIRL and I hate women so much. I don't really see them as inferior, I just see them as being stupid whores - but I think men are just as stupid and loose, though I tend to project my hatred more onto women. I know this is technically someone else's question, but I really need help too. I get so unbelievable angry at other girls, especially when they're being teases and then ***** and moan when they get raped. And I know that's horrible - I wish I could stop thinking like that. I actually bought a book about feminism, and all it did was confirm the fact that women are sluts who allow themselves to be demeaned and are too stupid to think for themselves (in my opinion)

I completely agree with the question, and actually came to this page in order to seek the same answer. I can see none of these comments helped, they don't even understand the feeling completely(or close).I would help you if I knew how to cope with this myself, but yes I do see where your coming from. I hope that one guy is right about them changing as they grow up. Ive thought that way about it to and it seems that would be the only way or I would grow old alone by choice. How is homegirl50 a dating and teen expert. That last comment was the biggest misfire I've ever seen. Are you really an expert or did you just put that. At first I was like is this person serious next I laughed, then I said omg it says this person is an expert on these matters to lmao.

Good to see all answers from women... Its perfectly fine to hate women... And it is not offensive to hate women, but women will claim it is completely unreasonable to hate women... A women could hate spiders or snakes, does that mean it is wrong? It just means at every opportunity she would avoid them...

You can hate women and not be obvious about it, keep yourself learning and becoming a more educated and creative man that you were meant to be. As far as relationships with women, unfortunately chivalry is now considered intimidation and abuse. If you marry and have children, there is a greater than 60% chance you will divorce... If that happens, you will be stripped of all your financial assets, declared a unfit father, and considered potentially violent even though there is no previous history.

Over the past 20 years we have seen mens efforts in society slowly decay to where men are portrayed as stupid and ignorant on TV commercials. On the news we see a men who act out violence on women, hence all men are considered potential Psychopath. We also see the rising empowerment of women to a point where they want to be treated equally to men, but yet do not feel they have to treat men with the same equality...

Take a moment to really watch how women behave in a group. Most of their conversations are about how other females are inferior to them. Even when they are friends they will still stab each other in the back, and for any number of reasons. Look at how they dress when they go out, and the comments they say behind each others back.

Women now blatantly claim they are better than men in just about every capacity... They have gone from revolution to decadence and demand that men serve their needs without question or fail...

For men, it is best to pursue their ambitions without a women to take it away... And for $200 to$300 once or twice a month you can purchase a prostitute to service your personal needs, which is much cheaper than going through a divorce...

In high school I don't know why girls act like that. I had a best friend in the years leading up to high school, she was extrodinarily pretty, smart, funny, kind, understanding, and was there for me every time I had problems and as if over night she changed. The day high school started she stopped talking to me completley. Didn't even acknowledge my existence, and just when my depression was wearing off from that she talks to me one time, and it sent me back tp the old days, there was a moment, then her friends showed up and she left me, full of hope, only to crash again after not communicating with her for even longer. And every two months or so she talks to me, gives me one of her old smiles, and its awefull. Hope is the deadliest weapon.
My point is people change, and eventually even mean people become rashonal again, think about others, some more than others obviously, but I know one day, when I nolonger know her, shel have a family like we always talked about and shel be a nice women again. Sorry for the long sad anecdote, I'm about to start crying so il leave you to figure it out.

The way you feel is justified. I too have felt that way and still feel that way... but there was one major turning point, through the fog of hate in my head, I realized that a small percentage of women are not that bad, almost on the brink of being acceptable. Don't worry you are not going to "turn" gay. Either you are or you aren't. I mean, yes men do some messed up things, but women are completely selfish and will do anything to help themselves. You cannot blame them though. They are weak, and inferior in all aspects of life. Women want to fight for equality, while at the same time expect them to be treated differently. They want to be equal with men, but don't want to pay the bills, do the hard stuff (whether it be work or at home) and want to be treated like royalty. Also if it wasn't for men, 98.9% of the inventions, advancement in technology, we are the creators of buildings, cars, and majority of the medical advancements. Women cause more problems than they fix. It is scientifically proven that women produce 1/3 less serotonin then men, which in turn makes women more depressed and angry. Hell even women don't like the presence of other women. When women are "best friends" with another woman, 99% of the time they stop talking to each other in less than a year or two. So to answer you question, the reason why you hate is a good thing. Keeps you from picking the wrong girl. And good luck in finding that special girl cause brother they are very very very hard to find.

I am a 24 year old male, have the same feelings as you. In fact I don't go to restaurants where women work because I think they will try to poison me. I just want to offer some proof of my allegations that women are dishonorable and sly, from this very thread. A woman in this thread, 88sunflower, posted "There will be a lifetime of hurt ahead of you." Who says stuff like this? Definitely not a man. Just because a young man has expressed some of his suspicions of women, and she can't defend herself or her gender with logic and reasoning, she attacks him at a deep emotional level, trying to make him feel bad for his own existence. Unfortunately I have a mother who is like that and who inflicts deep emotional wounds at every action that I take. It's why I've moved out of my mother's house. But it seems that it has left a scar on me that may never heal. So my advice is, although there's no easy solution to your problem, be sure to do anything possible to change your attitude quickly, or any woman you meet will try her best to make your life worse and worse until you die. In short, if you show you are emotionally vulnerable (like you have shown that you are prone to become resentful) women will take full advantage of it. Mastering women is mostly just mastering your emotions. And if you don't master them, they will mess up your life.