View Full Version : What to do about a girl you REALLY like but has had a boyfriend for 2 years?
seth3g5
Mar 4, 2009, 06:23 PM
First off, I'm 15, almost 16. There is there is this girl that I met almost 2 months ago. Right now we are just friends but I really really really like her. I like her way more than any other girl I have ever liked. She has a boyfriend and they've been together for 2 years. She never has even mentioned him to me but she knows that I know she has a boyfriend. Whenever we see each other around school we always say hi and we still do even if she is with her boyfriend. I'd say we are pretty good friends but just friends. I think she likes me but I'm not real sure.
But I have no idea what to do? Do I tell her how I feel and risk losing a good friend? Do I just wait for them to break up even if they have been together for 2 years? And I don't think I can just move on because she is the only girl like and I like her a lot.
Any help would REALLY BE APPRECIATED
Thanks
giggle_monster
Mar 5, 2009, 06:54 AM
I think you should ask her if she likes you or ask a friend to ask her if she likes likes you and if she does then tell her how you feel or you can wait until her and her boyfriend breakes up but if you do you will have to wait until she is sobbing over it.
450donn
Mar 5, 2009, 09:57 AM
Do nothing. At least not until she is free to date again.
ZoeMarie
Mar 5, 2009, 10:25 AM
What's going to be harder: being friends with someone you like but you can't be in a relationship? Or finding new friends and trying to get over her? I would recommend the second one.
liz28
Mar 5, 2009, 10:52 AM
If she had a boyfriend for the past 2 years that shows that she is in a committed relationship so why would you want to interfer?
Now if she never mention her boyfriend to you maybe she just likes the attention you're throwing her way. If this is the case you could be playing with fire and shouldn't want to get tangle in anyone confusion.
In life your going like people but sometimes the person you like is going be taken so you move on and find someone that is available and stop focusing on someone that is taken.
Food for thought, if you can take her away from her boyfriend what makes you think the same can't happen to you? Where's the loyalty?
ar9763
Mar 5, 2009, 01:46 PM
I have almost EXACTLY the same problem, only even more complicated. My "best friend" no longer talks to me, and I'm not sure why. If it works out for you, be sure to tell me about it. Read my post:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/she-said-wer-best-friends-now-we-barely-talk-does-she-still-like-me-how-much-322032.html
Also, I know how you feel... this girl was my best friend, and I can't imagen replacing her. There are other girls that I think I could get to like, but Im just not even interested.
seth3g5
Mar 5, 2009, 02:36 PM
Thanks for the advice.
Giggle monster- why should I wait until she is crying over it?
Zoe-i truthfully don't think I can get over her. For me, its not about what is easier, its about will overall make me happier.
I sit right next to her in a class, I'm her lab partner, she rides my bus, and I see her everyday so its pretty hard to just not think about her.
Liz- I'm very willing to take the risk of that happening if we are together.