ineedsomeadvice
Mar 4, 2009, 10:50 AM
Hey everyone
So... my husband and I had a HUGE fight this morning, one of the many we seem to be having lately. We have only been married 5 months and I don't know if fighting this much so early is a good sign. We do live with his family and most of our arguments are about this. And before you guys say anything about this, I'll beat you to the punch. We have to live with his family as we cannot afford to move out right now, long story. I would rather live with my family, but they all live in other countries, so besides for my husband, I am alone here in the US.
Anyway, I do not have a car either and my husband has not been able to take me to work lately so his mother offered to take me, which is very nice of her, but on the other hand, she also sees this as an opportunity to be nosy and ask me personal questions and she has. Me and my MIL have not been getting along so great either. We are civil to each other but that's about it. So this experience has been a bit awkward.
Please bare with me, I'm getting to the point :o) So this morning she had errands to run and of course my husband was not taking my calls and so I decided to call a cab to get to work, my mil showed up 2 minutes before the cab did and she thought that this would be the perfect opportunity for her to unleash all her pent up anger out on me and to play the victim again like she always does. But what gets me is that she managed to turn this whole thing to be about her. I was furious, but I am proud of myself as I managed to say in a calm and firm way that this has nothing to do with her and it is between me and my husband and I apologised to her for the misunderstanding with the ride this morning, but this was not good enough for her.
She was already on the phone with her daughter, who also lives with them and who is even nosier than my mil and more y. I can just see them wanting to "talk" with me later aka yell and scream at me.
Please give me some advice, what should I do, what should I say when they verbally attack me and make this whole thing into and opportunity for them to sink their teeth into me? Whenever they do this, they want to sit down and talk about crap that happened a year ago. Oh and my favorite part is how she ALWAYS throws it in my face that they have been so good to me etc. But when you talk crap about someone to everyone you know, how are you being good to them?
So... my husband and I had a HUGE fight this morning, one of the many we seem to be having lately. We have only been married 5 months and I don't know if fighting this much so early is a good sign. We do live with his family and most of our arguments are about this. And before you guys say anything about this, I'll beat you to the punch. We have to live with his family as we cannot afford to move out right now, long story. I would rather live with my family, but they all live in other countries, so besides for my husband, I am alone here in the US.
Anyway, I do not have a car either and my husband has not been able to take me to work lately so his mother offered to take me, which is very nice of her, but on the other hand, she also sees this as an opportunity to be nosy and ask me personal questions and she has. Me and my MIL have not been getting along so great either. We are civil to each other but that's about it. So this experience has been a bit awkward.
Please bare with me, I'm getting to the point :o) So this morning she had errands to run and of course my husband was not taking my calls and so I decided to call a cab to get to work, my mil showed up 2 minutes before the cab did and she thought that this would be the perfect opportunity for her to unleash all her pent up anger out on me and to play the victim again like she always does. But what gets me is that she managed to turn this whole thing to be about her. I was furious, but I am proud of myself as I managed to say in a calm and firm way that this has nothing to do with her and it is between me and my husband and I apologised to her for the misunderstanding with the ride this morning, but this was not good enough for her.
She was already on the phone with her daughter, who also lives with them and who is even nosier than my mil and more y. I can just see them wanting to "talk" with me later aka yell and scream at me.
Please give me some advice, what should I do, what should I say when they verbally attack me and make this whole thing into and opportunity for them to sink their teeth into me? Whenever they do this, they want to sit down and talk about crap that happened a year ago. Oh and my favorite part is how she ALWAYS throws it in my face that they have been so good to me etc. But when you talk crap about someone to everyone you know, how are you being good to them?