I am 25 yrs old I have been with my fiancé for six years now, and am really worried because my fiancé has cancelled our wedding now for the third time and am getting tired of waiting ,what do you think I should do.

Well, my first impression is cut your losses and step back. And its not like I take a long term relationship lightly. First big love I had lasted over six years... was tough to finally admit it had stalled and I needed a change. Hard to walk away with time invested, but time alone doesn't make a relationship.

So... the real questions are what are the issues in the relationship and have they been solved. I don't care if you have been together six weeks or months or years... unless the issues that keep you apart are addressed, its not solved.

So more info please. Perspective would help.

i am 25 yrs old i have been with my fiance for six years now, and am really worried because my fiance has cancelled our wedding now for the third time and am getting tired of waiting ,what do you think i should do.?
Well after deciding to move on with my life he now set a day for our wedding,but the funny thing I now feel like he is doing it just for the sake,tell me what I shoud do the wedding is in six month.

Well at first it was finicial,second time he said he wanted to do the weddind with is parents around well his parents are in africa and has not seen them for 14 yrs now,third time which our wedding was to take place this June,he changed it for next year.

You know I went through that with my last relationship. We were set to get married and he kept pushing the date back and pushing that date back and finally I was fed up. I told him that if he pushed the date back one more time it was over. When the wedding was about 5 months away he told me he just wasn't ready. I realized then it wasn't meant to be with him. I should have realized the first time when he pushed the date back he had doubts. I was so blinded by how much I loved him I didn't realized how he felt. I am now happily married to someone else. Now looking back I guess it was god telling me this isn't the right one for you. Maybe it was a sign. I spent years alone after we broke up but when I met my new husband it felt so right. Maybe you should let him go. If he doesn't realize he can't live with out you then it wasn't meant to be!

Well at first it was finiciall problem,second time he said he had to to the wedding with is parents present and the thing is he'parents are in africa ,the third time is what happened is that our weddind was to happen this June but he changed it to next year.

I think that you should have a discussionn with her and ask her to tell you truthfully the reason that she is postponing the wedding,If you found out that she is not ready to marry, then you two should not tie the knot. Marriage is a big step and should not be taken lightly.I can feel that you love her. I hope it work out.PEACE

Well... the details aren't still perfectly clear... financial, wanting parents present, then no reason...

So what has he done to affect these excuses? What did he do to ensure financially it could be done? What has he done to arrange for his parents to be present? And what was the excuse for the last time?

Wedding dates get changed. It happens. Fine.

But he's been with you for years. Why in the world does it need to be another year before you are married?

For any excuse he has, he should have an action plan. If he doesn't, he is not vested in making this happen.

I'm biased, I guess. Was engaged to me married in six mo and when we suddenly had a chance to get married in two weeks, I jumped at it. I wanted to be married now. Sure, we planned a reception for a few months later when loved ones could be present... but delaying our wedding was the last thing I wanted to do.

If he has "legitimate" reasons, he should have legitimate answers and real, directed action. Without it, he's just buying time.

This is kidestabebe again well the thing is me and my fiancé have a child together she is o1 and 2month old and I do not really want her to be with out a father,nowwehad a talk with my fiancé and he deceided or rather agreed to have or wedding on September,now the think is do you think I should go ahead?

If you are both ready then go ahead. Do you live together already then?

I had the same situation with my ex. We were engaged for over 3 years. Every time we set a date he would push the wedding back. He did this 3 or 4 times in those 3 years. Toward the end I got some sense talked into me by a close friend about the whole situation. After a while I finally got the courage to ask him if he was ready to get married or not. He said no and I gave him his ring back. You can't force something that isn't right. You both need to be ready to get married if that's what you decide to do.

Talk to him about what you're thinking though. You may be right. Maybe he is telling you that you should get married in September for the reason you mentioned.

I understand the pressure you feel with having children.

I still say some issue(s) isnt/arent resolved. His agreeing to a date doesn't mean he is in any better of a place.

And I'm not saying he's a bad guy... but I don't understand what's going on behind the scenes. What's in his head? What explanation?

Sounds like you apply pressure and he responds with "ok" and then later stalls. How is agreeing to another date now any different that when he agreed before, but didn't stick to the date?

Again... there's something going on that you aren't talking about. Maybe its nerves. Maybe anxiety about the cost. The people. The stress? I don't know.

Your children have a father, whether he is married to you or not. I know its not that easy. I'm a father myself and I believe its best if both parents are present as much as possible, when the relationship is good and nurturing.

So... I'm not up for head games, but maybe its time to see if he really means this. If you can't come up with a reason why he put this off this last time, and why he seems to think sooner now is OK when it wasn't just a few days ago, fine.

Give him a few simple tasks to do concerning the wedding and see if he follows through. Without knowing more about what's going on in his head, I don't know what else to say. You know him better than all of us, but are unsure of what to do next because you aren't sure where his heart is concerning this wedding.

Wish I knew more. Wish you did too. Hope he means what he says and says what he means.

I don't think he's interested in getting married. Kids or no kids, you have been living together, having kids, and still not married. In his mind he does not want to commit to anything permanent even if you keep pushing him into it he's not going to go through with it. Why would you want a big wedding now anyway? Why not just do a court house wedding first. Betcha he won't even go through with that even if pushed.

Cut your losses as this guy sounds like he's not going to do it regardless if you have 10 kids by him.