How can I tell if a male colleague is interested in me? HE IS VERY TACTILE WITH ME & WE SHARE SOME COMMON INTERESTS HAVE A SIMILAR SENSE OF HUMOUR SO ARE ALWAYS MAKING EACH OTHER LAUGH. There have been feelings on my part for a long time now & I am unsure if he is starting to feel something for me or not. I am sure he must know I feel something for him, but we are both with "others" so he might be afraid to admit to anything. We do exchange texts with each other & sometimes I do think they are bordering on "flirting"
He has suggested lately that our 2 dogs should meet... we talk about them as well as other things 7 he suggested a place to meet to give them a run around! Do you think this is an excuse to see each other outside of work? I really hope so but I don't know if he is just being friendly. We have got along for a while now & our friendship seems to go from strength to strength & I think that if other people heard us sometimes they would think that there was something between us, even though there isn't.. yet. Am I being silly & imagining things because I want there to be more than friendship. P,s we are not kids ( 45 7 48) but we seem to act childish around each other!

I have always found it does better to just get to know someone, and see where it goes, rather than trying to read the minds/signs of people. You two seem to enjoy each other's company, which is ALWAYS a good start.

You said you both have others so why even start something at your place you make a living at. At best you can only presume, and wonder what's on his mind, but since he is with someone, you can only figure he is flirting to see if your an easy booty call. (sorry thats what guys do, see if the easy path to glory is available.).

I strongly suggest that you keep it strictly business, where work is concerned, as things get really messy and awkward, if there is a glitch in the plans, and you assume, and presume too much, to fast, based on feelings and not facts. I will wager you don't know a lot about this fellow, besides he is working, with dog, and an "other". So caution, is the best way to go.

If all your looking for is a booty call, and neither of you cares about cheating, that's another story.

If you intend cheating on your "other" I would suggest breaking up with him first and spare him the indignity.

Then we'll see you back here in a few months asking why won't my BF leave his GF for me. And if he's willing to cheat on her don't you think he'd be willing to cheat on you down the track?

Like Tal said he wants a booty call and looks like your willing to be that. Not a good idea particularly if you have to work with each other.