My friend and I met in our chemistry lab. We clicked immediately and decided to live together. We weren't sure if if was the greatest idea but it's been OK until now. I don't know how to tell her when something is bugging me. Nothing that she's done is a big deal, but right now I'm frustrated. She'll ask me questions that aren't clear and when I try to answer them she'll go never mind you don't know. I do know! You're just not making sense! She also gets really tense every time after a test. I feel like its done and over with but she stays in a bad mood. I'm not one of those happy-go-lucky people. If she's snappy with me then I'm going to be snappy right back. I'm so tense anymore that I can't relax. And every time she's mad at me she never tells me, she just goes and talks to other people about it. Most of the time I feel like I'm in a bad mood cause of her. We have so much fun together, I just feel like I can't say anything or else she'll snap. She takes everything so seriously. What should I do?

You know, at one time I had three roommates, and there was so much stress in all three of our lives that we tended to take it out on each other. Not intentionally, but we did. If I was stressed about work and came home and the dishes weren't done I'd spazz out. Here is what we did.

We had a big sectional couch, so once a week we'd gather in the living room. NO TV, no radio, no cell phones. We talked about our weeks, our stresses, what each person should be doing in the house. This was our non-judgement zone. Anything could be said in this circle, and the number one rule was not to take the emotions of what was said in the circle out of that circle. If something upset someone we talked about it then and there. It was quite releieving and made for a more tranquil living environment.


Hope this helped.