It's an older song, around the 80's or 90's. It's a woman singing and part of the song I remember is "Do you know what i mean?"

You are probably referring to the song "What I Am" by Edie Brickell and the New Bohemians from the album "shooting rubberbands at the stars"
I am what I am if you know what I mean well do you?. shove me in the shallow water before I get too deep... what I am is what I am...