PDA

View Full Version : Rights of teenage dad


christianedemae
Feb 21, 2009, 12:44 AM
Can the parents of a pregnant teenage girl make her give baby up for adoption without permission of teenage dad?

Synnen
Feb 21, 2009, 09:28 AM
The parents of a pregnant teenage girl cannot make HER give the child up for adoption, period.

If the father refuses to sign away parental rights, then the adoption won't go through anyway.

HOWEVER: You need to get a family law attorney and have them walk you through how to set up something legal that claims you are the child's father BEFORE the baby is born. I can't remember what it's called at the moment, but it will stop the mother from claiming she doesn't know who the father is to get an adoption to go through without his signature.

Women who would do that are the ones that give birthparents a bad name, really--because they are the ones that set it up so that adoptions can be overturned because they lied in court--and the birthfather can sometimes get custody of his child back.

So--again, they can't make her choose adoption, but they CAN counsel her to lie about who the father is so that an adoption goes through.

collinsmom
Feb 21, 2009, 06:09 PM
Synnen is right... the father has to sign away his rights (or not contest the adoption if served) just like the mother. I don't know what side you're on, but I hope that all parties will seek counseling.

ScottGem
Feb 21, 2009, 06:21 PM
There is a bigger worry for the dad. Depending on the state, he could be prosecuted for statutory rape.

Fr_Chuck
Feb 21, 2009, 06:36 PM
Yes, the teenage needs to talk with a family attorney.

christianedemae
Feb 22, 2009, 11:14 AM
I am the mother of the boy. He turns eightteen in July. She turns eightteen in June. Apparently she is pregnant for 3 months. Her parents knew several weeks before I did and haven't taken her to doctor or anything

ScottGem
Feb 22, 2009, 11:31 AM
What state are you in?

christianedemae
Feb 22, 2009, 02:08 PM
We are in Utah

ScottGem
Feb 22, 2009, 02:21 PM
Well it looks like he's safe from Statutory rape charges unless it can be proven that sexual activity began before she turned 16.

If you feel that she is not getting proper pre-natal care, then you can inform chidren's services to investigate. How do you know she hasn't seen a doctor?

If she does give birth the child you son can go court for partial custody and visitation. She will then file for child support.

If they try to give it up for adoption, they will have to get his permission.

N0help4u
Feb 22, 2009, 02:24 PM
Yeah ages and state would help. What Scott said is especially true if she is under 15 in pretty much all states.

You could try to be the ones who adopt. I don't know how that works too much but I know it has been done by others,

christianedemae
Feb 22, 2009, 03:18 PM
He turns 18 in July, she turns 18 in June. The kids want to get married as soon as possible. The baby is due in August. We are in Utah

christianedemae
Feb 22, 2009, 05:16 PM
They met right before their seventeenth birthday. Sexual activity was not in our house. Her mother admits it could easily happened at their house because she let them be alone in the girl's room. Last week mother said she would take her to the doctor on Saturday. Her dad told me her mom would take her Friday. Now they say next week Wednesday. I am convinced they have no intention to take her to a doctor. She is starting to show and I would not be surprised if she is pregnant a month longer. I am thinking of going to talk to a school counselor. Apparently the dad says now she is too young to decide about marriage and has to wait another 4 years. Her mom would be OK with marriage if my son promises that he will take their daughter and baby to some cult I had never heard of until yesterday called "the rock"

ScottGem
Feb 22, 2009, 05:42 PM
While I agree with her father, she will no longer need parental consent when she turns 18.

However, I would counsel againt marriage. You have two young people who have known each other leass than a year, Just having a baby together is not enough reason to compound the error by getting married. Please don't push them into marriage.

But I do agree the girl needs to see a doctor very soon, reporting this to the school counselor might be your best idea.