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grisham
Feb 18, 2009, 10:13 AM
I live in Illinois. My boyfriend and I have custody of our son who is a year old. I have the primary residential custody. Every since he has had to pay child support which is 86 dollars a week. He has done nothing but try and take my son from me. He goes to women's center and has filed order of protections. The last order of protection was for him and my son. It got threw out 5 days later. This is all because he is mad that he has to pay child support. On the times he is supposed to have him he never has him in his care. The baby is always with his mother or sister. He has been arrested for battery while it was his weekend to have the baby. I don't know how to get this stopped. He harassed me with these OP 's and it is all lies. It is expensive because I have to hire lawyers. I just need some advice on what to do to get this stopped. I can't afford to hire a lawyer every time he get's mad and he is making me out to be a bad mom and I am a good mom trying to take care of my son. This will only get worse if I don't do something. I don't know what it will be from day to day with him.
this8384
Feb 18, 2009, 12:15 PM
If he is causing so much trouble for you, why is he still your boyfriend? Can you go back to court and file for full custody? On what grounds is he filing for protection?
grisham
Feb 18, 2009, 01:09 PM
He is my ex boyfriend we have been broke up for a year. Every since my son was born. He is trying to make me sound crazy. I read the Twilight book's and in the order he said I think I'm a vampire. I know this all sounds crazy. It's is the truth. He makes up anything. I guess the child support has made him mad enough to say anything. It's all silly things that he say's but it is hurtful. In the last OP it all has been throwed out of court. I just don't know what he will come up with next. It get's expensive hiring a lawyer just because he want's to cause trouble. It takes money away that I could buy things that my son needs.
this8384
Feb 18, 2009, 01:16 PM
I don't know that you necessarily have to hire an attorney every time he files for an order of protection(I'm spelling the whole thing because most people on this site take "OP" to mean "original poster"); after all, it seems even the court is beginning to find it ridiculous if they threw it out after only 5 days.
Have you looked into getting full custody and asking that his visits with your child be supervised?