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miss vicky
Feb 16, 2009, 09:53 PM
Hi We have been lived together for 3 years now. We have been everyday.A few weeks back we had a real bad argument. We were driving to a job interview when we started arguing it was about a sheet. When it was time to go I wen't and got dressed and I left my sheet in front room on a li'l coffy table. My partner asked me were my sheet was I said it's on the coffy table in ront room. When I looked it had gone. I realized my partners mum had her laptop on that coffy table. My sheet had vanished I suspected she had moved it and she did. My partner shouted at me to find it nasty in front of his mum and I felt so embarrassed.he wen't out of front room to look for the sheet and found it on p.c table. Partners mum could have told us. We both leave house and get in partners car. I say to my partner why did you shout at me in front of you're mum for? He answers because you didn't get of you're lazy ars to look for it. I then say why are you speaking to me like that for. He does not say owt. Then he starts swearing at drivers on road and I ask him to stop swearing. Then we get back on to the subject of the sheet again so we star arguing and he suddenly grabs my neck and pushes my head on the glass of the car window I could not move and I could not get his hand off my neck. He lets go thenscreams at me to get out of the car. I say no. he then grabs my neck again arguing and shouting and pusshing my head on the glass. Hets go and I get out the car in tears and walk to his grandads house still in tears I knock on his door and he lest me in.I sit down at his table and tell him what has happened.I tell him that I am leaving him.I stay there for 4 hours as I didn't won't to go near my partner. I then start to receive lots of text from him. I'm a fool I carum down after 5 hours and I go back to his man and dads place.today we have been carum we went to cinema today and it was great on our way back home we are fine we are singing in car to aromith he suddenly shouts really loud in my face and my re acting my hand flys up and slaps him on his right cheek not hard. Then he frettens to drive me to my moms and dads and it's 60 miles away. He's been sleep on the bedroom floor for 2 days and won't get in bed with me. Every time I try and talk to him about our relationship problems he goes silent and he won't talk to me. What shall I do. Ireally won't to leave him.:mad::confused:

talaniman
Feb 16, 2009, 10:03 PM
After 3 years that's the best you can communicate? What has changed lately? His job maybe? Maybe you should leave for a while as your both behaving badly. Everyone needs a vacation sometime. Gives you time to think.

miss vicky
Feb 16, 2009, 10:06 PM
After 3 years thats the best you can communicate?? What has changed lately?? His job maybe?? Maybe you should leave for a while as your both behaving badly. Everyone needs a vacation sometime. Gives you time to think.

We communicate all the time I am just talking about the arugement we have been having and what to do?

talaniman
Feb 16, 2009, 10:11 PM
You talk and resolve your issues. That's how most healthy couples do it.

I suspect you talk, but obviously not about the right things. Like why is he acting all weird all of a sudden?

Dare81
Feb 17, 2009, 02:26 AM
This seems like a physically abusive relationship, As TAL said after 3 years this is how you resolve your issues?
Both of you should leave each other alone