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iLy541
Feb 16, 2009, 05:49 PM
Well I have a relationship with this guy---me and him are friends with benefits.
We have sex, talk on the phone, and do what a couple would do._ is it wrong on my part? On his part? Is it Normal to have sex with your friend?

neverme
Feb 16, 2009, 05:56 PM
No it's not necessarily normal to have sex with your friends but, if it works for you and him then it's OK.

But it begs the question, if you were OK with it why are you on here asking?

kctiger
Feb 16, 2009, 05:58 PM
There are two issues with what you are doing:

1. Once you have sex with a FRIEND... USUALLY, that friendship is NEVER the same.

2. Most often, in this type of situation, one of you start to want more... and it starts to turn nasty or hurtful really quickly.

If you two are all right with it, then I guess you do what you have to do, but keep in mind the two issues I have set forth...

iLy541
Feb 16, 2009, 06:09 PM
Like I don't know why but I have feelings for him_ and now I'm kind of at lost with what to do because he already made it clear that he didn't want a relationship.

neverme
Feb 16, 2009, 06:13 PM
Well then stop it. What are you at a loss about?

He's made himself clear he wants no more. You know that this is the best idea, come on.

As Kc said, these are the issues that are involved and the situations you risk when you sleep with a friend.

Sit down with him and explain to him that you are starting to develop feelings for him and that unless he feels the same way it would not be right to continue your arrangement.

Then, if he says that he doesn't feel the same tell him that you need some time apart and try later to be friends again.

You'll only end up driving yourself nuts and hurting badly and you'll have no one to blame but yourself.

barbiechick123
Feb 16, 2009, 08:55 PM
I agree with the above... if this guy wants nothing more than friends w/ benefits and you like him... than cut it out. It'll end up stinging really badly!