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boywithqs
Feb 16, 2009, 11:19 AM
(FYI: I'm a guy and my best friend is a girl) I love my girlfriend but I'm starting to fall in love with my best friend, what should I do?
Also when my girlfriend and I are kissing I think of my best friend sometimes, is that normal? What is going on with me? I thought I was sure I wanted to marry my girfriend but now I'm not sure... Any advice would be very helpful please.

chuff
Feb 16, 2009, 02:41 PM
How old are you?

How long have you known both parties?

Do you think your friend is into you, or is this one sided on your part, and she's in the dark?

boatbuilder
Feb 16, 2009, 09:17 PM
You might want to find out if your best friend has any feelings in a way that will not compromise your current relationship before you go any further

neverme
Feb 16, 2009, 09:19 PM
Ya need to know more info...

Your age and the ages of the ladies involved?

How long have you been with/known them?

What has your relationship been like recently?

etc...

boywithqs
Feb 17, 2009, 11:16 AM
Answers to yr q's

How old are you?~~ I'm 18

How long have you known both parties?~~ The 16yr old five yrs. The 18yr old three yrs

Do you think your friend is into you, or is this one sided on your part, and she's in the dark?~~ I'm not really sure about my friend. I think she might, but I don't want to ask her because I don't want risk loseing her friendship.

Your age and the ages of the ladies involved?~~ I'm 18. My girlfriend is 16 and my best friend is 19.

How long have you been with/known them?~~ The 16yr old five yrs. I have been with my girlfriend 2 1/2yrs. The 18yr old three yrs

What has your relationship been like recently?~~ It has been a little irritable and stressful. (due to people getting to her and she thinks that what they say might come true or is true.)

Sahi444
May 13, 2009, 12:59 AM
I don't know anything but in your place, I would have sticked on with d girlfriend . Its just my gutfeel the choice is yours

Besta luck

ajGambino
May 13, 2009, 01:36 AM
You're young. What you should do is talk to your girlfriend. As hard as it may sound, talk to her about these new feelings you have. You cannot keep secrets in a relationship, as they might ruin it.

Either way, communication with your girlfriend is key. You're only 18, try not to let these feeilngs bother you.

Talk to her.

Jake2008
May 13, 2009, 01:56 AM
If you are in a relationship with your girlfriend to the extent that you are considering marriage, then you are not being fair to her.

Whether it is your best friend, or another woman that you have developed feelings for, you have to recognize that your commitment is not the same as it was to your girlfriend.

Perhaps it might be a good idea to slow your current relationship down, and have some space between you while you sort your feelings out.

I know if I were your girlfriend, I would appreciate you being honest with me, even though I would be very hurt, because I would not want a man who was unsure of his feelings for me, while he has feelings for another.

killer777
May 17, 2009, 08:08 PM
U guys are right you need more info if I were you tell your girlfriend (girlfriend) the way you feel then go from there

chuff
May 17, 2009, 08:32 PM
I remember this thread like it was 3 months ago.

Romefalls19
May 18, 2009, 05:57 AM
Well played Chuff, well played