View Full Version : My "Father" is a Child Molester! 30+ yrs of molesting unpunished!
Siscokid
Feb 15, 2009, 03:34 PM
My parents divorced shortly after I was born about 29 yrs ago. We will call my father Tim. Due to Tim molesting my 2 sisters 8 and 9 at the time. My mom tried to prosecute but was unsuccessful due to my sisters inability to testify. Furthermore Tim had molested approx 14 boys in the church prior to this and it was all shoved under the carpet. Prior to that Tim had Raped his best friend at gun point in his teens. I don't know how that went un prosecuted either.
Tim remarried to a woman of 4 in 82, we will call her jane. The same happened but Jane hide the secret as well. Come to find out Tim molested his oldest stepson 14 at the time who in turn molested his brother and sister age 12 and 10. Tim also molested his stepdaughter age 8 and she was told to forget it that she dreamed it. So 30 years of child molesting has gone unpunished and really unnoticed.
I have made several calls to authorities myself over many years to see what can be done and they blow me off due to statute of limitations have expired. I recently told one of my stepsisters about what I knew and to watch her children around Tim and Jane and that was the reason my parents divorced 29 years ago. Also making clear his secret to the rest of my brothers and sisters. I was the one who was lying even with all that had happened to their family as children.
All of them are really past the point of prosecuting him as well as these acts happened long ago as well.
Tim and Jane have a grandkids guest bedroom built in what would be a walk in closet and have grandkids over all the time. I feel that they BOTH are sick in the head.
I am frustrated that nothing really can be done till he molests another child and it can be proven. He has no criminal record and since never charged and or convicted will never be put on a sex offender registry. But I don't want to see not 1 more child hurt by this man.
I am not looking to do anything illegal as much as it might seem to be the answer, I don't want my hands to be dirty. I am looking for some way to alert/expose him to the world so to speak. So this never happens again.
PLEASE HELP!!
cdad
Feb 15, 2009, 06:59 PM
First off what proof do you have that can go before the courts ? Is there any physical proof or testimony that can go before the courts ? Another thing is what stae are we talking about because many states there is no statue of limitations on crimes against children. Knowing those 2 things we might be better able to help you.
We don't need the fine details just what you can proceed with so we may better advise you.
Siscokid
Feb 16, 2009, 10:55 AM
Well the two states involved are MO and IL.
As far as proof, I was never molested myself so everything I have is hearsay.
-I have my 2 sisters stories but they that aren't willing to go to court and ever have to see him again and have blocked most of the details as to be able to live a somewhat normal life.
-There are letters from the church from 1979 that account the facts of the 14 boys, some more in detail than others. He openly admitted to all cases involving the boys and my sisters in marriage counseling which prompted their separation and divorce.
-I recorded a phone conversation with me father from 3 years ago where he admits and doesn't deny different accounts or accusations.
-I have email correspondence from over the past 3 to 4 years since he has reentered my life of which are somewhat vague.
-As far as the other brothers and sisters it all is hearsay and would they be willing to prosecute?? That I don't know
-My "father" made the comment to me "that he would never have sexual desire or would he touch his biological sons" meaning me and my half brother who is 25, but then laughed off the rest of the sentence saying "well you can form your own opinion as to what that means." I know that can't be proven.
As far as any instances with grandchildren or other children, we can really only hope they are few or nonexistent, but I deep down I know that is not the case.
I am 99% sure that he has not only evidence of child porn on his computer but that he has hard copy pictures of his step children in the house. But how do you get authorities to check that one out??
I don't ever want another child to be harmed mentally, physically, sexually, or emotionally by this man ever again.
cdad
Feb 16, 2009, 01:40 PM
Without any true evidence.. meaning direct testimony from the victims. Its very hard to prosecute a case. Another thing is depending on how you recorded him that in itself may be illegal and inadmissible in court. What deals were struck with the church we don't know. Your best bet is to talk to a professional in that field and ask them how to proceed. Right now your playing with fire and this is one that you don't want to get burned on and he walks completely free. Good Luck.
Justwantfair
Feb 16, 2009, 02:45 PM
I am confused if there was abuse of the all of the children why would they allow their own children any visitation in that house?
Is there a way to get DCFS involved to question the grandchildren?
Siscokid
Feb 16, 2009, 04:38 PM
Thanks for the input I know this is a tough matter and with no SOLID evidence this will never see its day in court but that is why I am so frustrated as to how to stop this crap from happening again.
Here is an email he sent to me today and I changed the names and highlighted a few things. But this is his response from me telling my brothers and sisters his secret.
Dear (Siscokid),
I hope you will take time to read this and consider thoughtfully. You have succeeded in making all my children aware of my dirty laundry from the past. You have failed to find any evidence that would support a current effort to send me to jail. All the kids feel betrayed by your pretense of developing brother/sister relation while only having one purpose, to check out closets for dirt. We made it as easy as possible when you began your search, knowing there was nothing to hide, hoping that you did indeed have intentions of developing mutually respectful relationships.
You represent Christ as his name bearer, and yet your actions have finally revealed themselves to be quite the opposite. You have abused the alleged victims while portraying yourself as some kind of savior to set them free. You have attacked (Jane) as a co-conspirator, the one who has done the most to believe the best in you and to pave the way for you to enter into meaningful relationships. You call me the monster and suggest that if she lives with me she must be of like matter.
Not one of my children would tolerate for a moment if the actions you accuse me of were on going. And neither would (Jane). We are not perfect, but we are a unified normal family. Find it not strange if any contact with my adult kids results in the door closed to you. That is your doings. Your appearance is like a wolf at the door. Your text messages only strengthen their resolve. I have never attempted to buffer or manipulate your development with my kids. They are all grown adults and have no use or need for such "protection".
Please respect the fact that they do not wish to hear from you and maybe never. The dust will settle but know that they are unified in defending and guarding the well being of their father and mother, whom they know well. No investigators have come to our door nor do I fear if they do.
It is still my hope and prayers for Christ to be glorified. Sadly there is no shining glow from all these broken relationships. Truth will set you free. But a so-called foundation of truth built on untruths and unforgiveness is what it is. Not glorifying. Please consider how you have sinned against each of my adult children by your deceits and untruths. As towards me it doesn't matter. I have already forgiven you and urge you to seek out some competent spiritual counseling.
To God be the Glory, dad
It really makes me sick!!
twinkiedooter
Feb 16, 2009, 08:04 PM
Steer clear of Dad as he definitely is a pedophile and rapist. He knows that you know and just hides behind his flowery language that does not mean anything. It's sad that you know the truth, but as he says everyone has turned against you now.
Just live your life with your own family and forget him. At this late stage of the game there really is nothing to do court wise if he's already dodged prison time once already.
Right, no. "The wheels of justice grind exceedingly fine" is something my mother used to tell me, and she was so right.
He's going to be caught sooner or later. I pray that he's caught sooner.