Okay, I am really confused. :confused:I need help understanding how many types of female orgasms there are.

I don't really know how to put it but when me and my wife make love she likes me to give her oral sex tell she has a clitoral orgasm. Then she likes penetration right afterwords. No problem with me, I love that. Then while we are having sex she seems to again, sometimes she even gushes. She says it is not an internal orgasm. The best way she can describe it is like it is a finishing thing.

I don't really understand what she means. She is not very good at explaining it to me, and seems to get embarrassed or frustrated. She knows I am not mad at her, or that it really matters to me, I am just trying to understand what she is feeling. She says she has only had an internal orgasm one time, and that is when we were having oral sex and my fingers were in her.

Can anyone explain it more clear for me. This is not something that is a problem with me and my wife, she is happy in bed and I am as well. Just looking for a clear explanation.

One, it can vary greatly in intensity... that's my opinion. :)

One, it can vary greatly in intensity...that's my opinion. :)

Is there a difference in clitoral and internal. She said she has had both. Internal only once. I understand they would feel the same.

I guess my question is the clitoris is not inside the vagina so to speak. So would it not be different.

Sorry just trying to understand.

I've discovered 3 different kinds of orgasms:

One that made me "gush" that wasn't very long but felt super intense.

A really long G-spot orgasm that felt amazing but doesn't happen often.

And a clitoral orgasm that lasts for about 30 seconds and tickles a little bit.

I truly believe women have many different kinds of orgasms with a variation of intensities. They are really hard to explain but they all feel good. If your making any kind of orgasm happen at all you should be proud of that... not many men can do that.

DSM--

I'll attempt to describe my orgasms when you figure out a way to describe how a blowjob feels different than intercourse, and how either of them are different from masturbating with your hand, in such a manner that I, having no penis, can understand completely what you are talking about.

Sorry--I'm not trying to be sarcastic, but I don't blame your wife for getting upset with you for trying to get her to describe them to you--seriously. It's like trying to describe how a cloud "tastes" or how the color green "smells". I think you COULD attempt to describe either of those, but if you were trying to describe it to someone who has never experienced it the same way you have, it's not going to make any sense.

DSM--

I'll attempt to describe my orgasms when you figure out a way to describe how a blowjob feels different than intercourse, and how either of them are different from masturbating with your hand, in such a manner that I, having no penis, can understand completely what you are talking about.

Sorry--I'm not trying to be sarcastic, but I don't blame your wife for getting upset with you for trying to get her to describe them to you--seriously. It's like trying to describe how a cloud "tastes" or how the color green "smells". I think you COULD attempt to describe either of those, but if you were trying to describe it to someone who has never experienced it the same way you have, it's not going to make any sense.

I understand what you are saying. I am not asking her to be a jerk, or wanting her to explain something she cant. I just want to learn, and be a good lover for my wife.

I am not trying to be selfish or self centered. I guess it would be the same as a woman wondering to know what she does that her lover likes or how it makes him feel. Like I said I understand they feel the same. That's great.

I did not mean to be annoying or ask a stupid question. I just think the more I understand the better I will at fulfilling her needs. Its not about me, just trying to learn a little for my wife's sake. I love her and want to make her happy.

I just thought that some woman might be able to shed some light on the subject. That's all.:)

Then just LISTEN to her, and ask her for suggestions to improve.

Trying to figure out how her orgasms are different from each other will be like you trying to say how YOUR orgasms are different from each other--and that just doesn't work.

Like I said, I wasn't trying to be mean or sarcastic--I just think what you're trying to get her to tell you in this case is impossible to describe.

DSM--

I'll attempt to describe my orgasms when you figure out a way to describe how a blowjob feels different than intercourse, and how either of them are different from masturbating with your hand, in such a manner that I, having no penis, can understand completely what you are talking about.
Simple
BJ: No work involved
Sex: Power
Masturbation: a chore

Yes... but how does it FEEL different?

You may want to try this web site I was told to look at this last year. You may get some extra info out of it.



AskMen.com - Free Men's Online Magazine (http://WWW.askmen.com)

Yes...but how does it FEEL different?

I don't think you understand what I was asking. That is my fault its just hard to explain. I am not asking how orgasm feel. They feel the same I understand that.

My question is, she says that when we are done with the oral and we go to intercourse and she gushes, or says I'm cuming, that she did not have another orgasm. She said it is like a "finishing thing".

That is what I don't understand, if she gushes, and moans like she is having an orgasm, but says it is not an orgasm then what is it. I don't understand the "finishing thing".

I can except that there may not be an explanation, or a way to explain it. I just thought a woman may have experienced the same feeling, and could put it in different words.

We can't help you if your wife has a limited vocabulary. Tell her to read a dictionary and ask her the same question in six months.

Why do you need an explanation anyway?



Yes...but how does it FEEL different?

It's just the same feelings as it is with women.

Types of Female Orgasm Research shows that women can have at least three types of orgasm: clitoral, vaginal, or blended. Most women attain orgasm by having their clitoris stimulated (a clitoral orgasm), while others may reach an intense, deep orgasm involving their uterus and reproductive system (a vaginal orgasm), especially during G-spot stimulation. Still other women may experience a blended orgasm, a combination of the two, from having both their clitoris and vagina stimulated at the same time. The vulval and uterine contractions that occur often result in this being experienced as the most powerful of the three types. In some women, female ejaculation (the release of a prostatic fluid-like substance) may accompany vaginal or combined orgasm(s).



Sexual Health Network - credentialed experts providing sexuality education from pleasure and orgasm to sexually transmitted diseases, sexual dysfunction, and sex and disability (http://www.sexualhealth.com/article/read/women-sexual-health/orgasm/429/)

We can't help ya if your wife has a limited vocabulary. Tell her to read a dictionary and ask her the same question in six months.

Why do you need an explanation anyway?


It's just the same feelings as it is with women.

I don't need an explanation, I was just wondering about it. Just curious. I guess I was a little confused when she seems to be having one with gushing and all, but says it is not.

Trust me this is not a topic I ask my wife about all the time. We have only had a talk about it once. It just came up after we made love.

This is not something I dwell on, think about every day, or something I have to have answer to. Like I said I understand if it is something that can't be explained, that's fine. I was just looking for another woman's input that's all.

I am not asking her to explain what an orgasm feels like. That would be stupid.

I guess I should have named the post "if its not an orgasm what is it" That would be more accurate that what I named it.

Women who are gushers may be able to address you question. It's an interesting one. If a woman never gushes, she wouldn't know how it is related to orgasms.

Gushing to me is lubrication due to excitement, but Sqirting? Is she sqirting fluid? Nice that she expressed it, finishing thing or not. Have more talks with her. Communication about sex is great, even if all the words and descriptors aren't there. Just don't make a map in your mind, that you know it all. We are always learning and changing.

I don't need an explanation, I was just wondering about it. just curious. I guess I was a little confused when she seems to be having one with gushing and all, but says it is not.

Trust me this is not a topic I ask my wife about all the time. We have only had a talk about it once. It just came up after we made love.

This is not something I dwell on, think about every day, or something I have to have answer to. Like I said I understand if it is something that can't be explained, thats fine. I was just looking for another womans input thats all.

I am not asking her to explain what an orgasm feels like. That would be stupid.

I guess I should have named the post "if its not an orgasm what is it" That would be more accurate that what I named it.
Your last two posts have added nothing to the topic. So I got to say, if you're so afraid of what this board or your wife thinks about your curiosity, then drop it.

I realized a long time ago I'll never be able to understand a woman's body.

Your last two posts have added nothing to the topic. So I gotta say, if you're so afraid of what this board or your wife thinks about your curiosity, then drop it.

I realized a long time ago I'll never be able to understand a woman's body.

Your last two posts have not even tried to answer my question. So who's the one not adding anything to this topic. If you have no information then why answer a question?

I am not afraid of what this board or my wife thinks about my curiosity. What my wife thinks about my curiosity is none of your business anyway. Where you came up with that is beyond me.

This is "Ask Me" is it not. I am just asking a question... a question that's all. If you don't like it then no one is forcing you to post.


We can't help ya if your wife has a limited vocabulary. Tell her to read a dictionary and ask her the same question in six months.

Also my wife's vocabulary is just fine. I will not insult her by telling her to read a dictionary

Women who are gushers may be able to address you question. It's an interesting one. If a woman never gushes, she wouldn't know how it is related to orgasms.

Gushing to me is lubrication due to excitement, but Sqirting? Is she sqirting fluid? Nice that she expressed it, finishing thing or not. Have more talks with her. Communication about sex is great, even if all the words and descriptors aren't there. Just don't make a map in your mind, that you know it all. We are always learning and changing.

Thanks for your post Simon. I feel the same way that we are always learning and changing. That is why I thought I would ask some other peoples experience on the subject. Believe me I am not even close to knowing it all. That is why I asked the question, to learn.

To answer your question... yes she does squirt fluid sometimes during intercourse. I always thought that meant an orgasm. Kind of like ejaculation for men. I guess I was wrong.

As a male, I have seen and felt a womens's orgasm. It depends on what knob or button you twiddle.

The fun one was the one from "aural sex". I kept saying " for me". Every time I said that, she did. After about 12 times, she said stop. This girl came in waves. Usually about 5 repititions of 10. Very visible.

There was one that occurred when licking the feet for a few minutes. No other foreplay.

Quite unique.

As a male, I have seen and felt a womens's orgasm. It depends on what knob or button you twiddle.

The fun one was the one from "aural sex". I kept saying " for me". Everytime I said that, she did. After about 12 times, she said stop. This girl came in waves. Usually about 5 repititions of 10. Very visible.

There was one that occurred when licking the feet for a few minutes. No other foreplay.

Quite unique.

I don't know what to say but WOW!!

Dsm

First, let me say you are NOT being a jerk, insensitive, or clueless. Like you need my props, I know. I'm a little egocentric at times. Gets me through the day.

My experience is that a woman's orgasm can be so completely different from a mans... and different from time to time... I don't even know that I can contain it with words.

I've been with my love for ten years. I can get her off most of the time. But even now... after lots of talking... thinking... trying... there are absolutely times when I don't know what the hell is going on.

Two nights ago I got her off... if you'd have asked me five minutes in would it happen, id probably have bet a months paycheck "no"... she didn't have any of her telltale signs. No arched back. She wasn't feeling her breasts. No shortened breathing. Was looking bad for me.

Then, changed an angle and *poof* there it was.

My point is this... I think its tough for men to understand the woman's orgasm. Ours largely consists of "push/pull/repeat"

What worked for one lover sometimes made the next love smack me upside the head.

I can't directly answer your question, but I can give you this. My wife is similar. She actually prefers oral to orgasm... and then, if given a choice between intercourse or oral (on me), loves intercourse after. She loves giving oral just fine, but something about intercourse "finishes the job"... on some occasions she can hit a smaller orgasm again, but most often its just an intense feeling that seems to be pleasurable to her.

Might seem like a strange question, but do you use protection or not?

The reason I ask is one earlier love absolutely HATED the male orgasm without protection and all the fuss that came with it. Icked her out. She loved sex, and was sexy as sin, but just didn't like that one bit.

My love is completely different. She loves to feel me come inside her. Almost misses it when I wear protection to reduce pregnancy. So mentally, she is turned on by it while the other lover was not.

Maybe that's part of it here. She might not feel another orgasm, but the act of being inside her satiates her... getting you to the Big O pleases her, and perhaps feeling you come inside her also pleases her.

You aren't a jerk at all for wanting to understand what is hard to understand.

Don't know if this post helps you one bit, but id simply assign this to something that you don't feel, won't feel, but are willing to "accept" as an explanation... she can get off with you, and loves to feel you inside her.

That's pretty damn great. Even if the exact sensations aren't point for point matches.

dsm

first, let me say you are NOT being a jerk, insensitive, or clueless. like you need my props, i know. im a little egocentric at times. gets me through the day.

my experience is that a womans orgasm can be so completely different from a mans... and different from time to time... i dont even know that i can contain it with words.

ive been with my love for ten years. i can get her off most of the time. but even now... after lots of talking... thinking... trying... there are absolutely times when i dont know what the hell is going on.

two nights ago i got her off... if youd have asked me five minutes in would it happen, id probably have bet a months paycheck "no"... she didnt have any of her telltale signs. no arched back. she wasnt feeling her breasts. no shortened breathing. was looking bad for me.

then, changed an angle and *poof* there it was.

my point is this... i think its tough for men to understand the womans orgasm. ours largely consists of "push/pull/repeat"

what worked for one lover sometimes made the next love smack me upside the head.

i can't directly answer your question, but i can give you this. my wife is similar. she actually prefers oral to orgasm.... and then, if given a choice between intercourse or oral (on me), loves intercourse after. she loves giving oral just fine, but something about intercourse "finishes the job"... on some occasions she can hit a smaller orgasm again, but most often its just an intense feeling that seems to be pleasurable to her.

might seem like a strange question, but do you use protection or not?

the reason i ask is one earlier love absolutely HATED the male orgasm without protection and all the fuss that came with it. icked her out. she loved sex, and was sexy as sin, but just didnt like that one bit.

my love is completely different. she loves to feel me come inside her. almost misses it when i wear protection to reduce pregnancy. so mentally, she is turned on by it while the other lover was not.

maybe thats part of it here. she might not feel another orgasm, but the act of being inside her satiates her... getting you to the Big O pleases her, and perhaps feeling you come inside her also pleases her.

you arent a jerk at all for wanting to understand what is hard to understand.

dont know if this post helps you one bit, but id simply assign this to something that you dont feel, wont feel, but are willing to "accept" as an explanation... she can get off with you, and loves to feel you inside her.

thats pretty damn great. even if the exact sensations arent point for point matches.


Thanks KP, I was starting to feel a like a jerk for asking a question. Yes your post does explain some things very well. I really appreciate all you put into your answer.

To answer your question I do not use protection. I had a vasectomy, so no need for protection. And yes it is a total turn on for me to come inside her. She absolutely loves it.

Most of the time when we make love I give her oral till she has an orgasm, than we have intercourse tell she has her finishing felling. Then it is my turn. And when I finish she goes crazy again. By far the best it gets for her is if I can finish while she is having her finishing feeling. That is the ultimate for her.

[/QUOTE]on some occasions she can hit a smaller orgasm again, but most often its just an intense feeling that seems to be pleasurable to her.[/QUOTE]

Just from talking to my wife I would say that is what she is feeling, that is a great explanation. Ya know I never wanted to understand how her orgasm feel, the way it happens or anything like that. Thanks for be ing understanding

Ok, I think a clitoral orgasm is something that is just hers, she cums, it's intense but only hers.


Whereas with intercourse it's a communal thing. So the finishing off thing, I think it's like she gets the intense physical pleasure then the intense emotional pleasure of connecting with someone 'finishes her off'.

Does that make sense? Helpful?

Ok, I think a clitoral orgasm is something that is just hers, she cums, it's intense but only hers.


Whereas with intercourse it's a communal thing. so the finishing off thing, I think it's like she gets the intense physical pleasure then the intense emotional pleasure of connecting with someone 'finishes her off'.

Does that make sense? Helpful?

It absolutely makes sense, thanks for the post.

I just hope that "intense emotional pleasure of connecting with someone" I hope that someone is me LOL:)

neverme - I agree.

There's another dimension to intercourse that is pleasurable.

Hell... if we just went with hitting orgasm as the end all be all, I can do that anytime I want. I'm the easiest lay I've ever known. Problem solver? Sure.

Even with oral... it can be different mentally depending on the situation. If my love goes down on me in bed, its often just part of the normal sexual lexicon.

But if she pushes me against the wall in the hall way and takes down my pants... there's another dimension. In both cases, it might be "all about me"... but somehow the second act intensifies her "need" to get me there.

Likewise, if I take her into the basement when friends are over and strip her waist down and pleasure her, somehow that same act is mentally heightened.

My love never, ever gets to orgasm in missionary. She likes how it feels. Enjoys it internally. Likes the sensations externally... eye contact, lips on lips, skin on skin over much of our body... but it isn't the right angle for her and the right stim. Still, it pleases her, especially after she's hit orgasm first in some other position or other means of stim.

Hmmm... whatthehell was I talking about?

Ah, neverme's post... I think the OP'ers wife has found some balance. Oral might be best, or the surest way, to bring her to orgasm consistently, but she still loves the connection tied to intercourse. She's a lot like my wife.

but if she pushes me against the wall in the hall way and takes down my pants... theres another dimension. in both cases, it might be "all about me"... but somehow the second act intensifies her "need" to get me there.



likewise, if i take her into the basement when friends are over and strip her waist down and pleasure her, somehow that same act is mentally heightened.


:eek: :D :D


hmmm... whatthehell was i talking about?



I don't know... I've completely forgotten, and it was my post!

I think it's nice that you what to know more about her orgasms. My husband will ask me "you like that". I will tell him yes or no. If we are using toys I will move the toy to the spot where it feels better to me. You are not going to know what feels great to her, she needs to tell you. I have done my homework and there are 3 different one that a female can have. The 1st one is , 2nd one is vag, and the last one is the G-spot. The only thing you really can do is ask her to show you where is feels the best.

First I would like to point out that a orgasm is a emotional and psychological pleasure that is caused by prolonged sexual stimulation. Women can have two different types of orgasms, vaginal and clitoral. Orgasms by clitoral stimulation is the most common while vaginal orgasms isn't because believe it or not many women can't climax this way.

Orgasms come in varying degrees of intensity, physical focus and duration. They can be a pleasurable little tingle or a body/mind/soul explosion. Some last for seconds, others minutes or even hours.

Now your question made me what to research the topic to see what some sex experts say and believe it or not some experts think, besides the two I listed, a women can also have an ejaculatory orgasms, whole body orgasms, and energy orgasms.

Energy orgasms clear the body of repressed emotions, old hurts, and blocks. They energize and yet relax the body, and balance the chakras. E R I K V I D A L: "How to Have Energy Orgasms" (http://www.erikvidal.com/erikvidal/2005/04/how_to_have_ene.html)

Ejaculatory orgasms are when that person climax because some people actually have a non ejaculatory orgasm.

Whole body orgasms are any sexual experience more intense and extensive than words can describe.They are energetic sensations and contractions that can be felt all over the body, especially in the abdomen, inner thighs, hands and feet, and of course the genitals. Some yoga poses can also help in archiving this form of orgasm.

You already know that women can have an orgasm from a variety of things so I am not going touch that subject. Hope this helps along with the other post and in your spare time you can goggle orgasms for women to read yourself because I viewed so many sites it is too many to post. I already knew about the clitoral and vaginal orgasms but didn't know about the others.