proudpole48
Feb 11, 2009, 09:13 AM
Hello all, 1st time asker here... I am completely perplexed my current situation.
Let's begin, I have been married for almost 2 years now with a woman I had dated for 2 years prior. Things are/were great and we have had a very good marriage as far as I can see.
The problem is that she is still talking to her ex-boyfriend via text, cell phone, and sending him e-cards. This guy was total bad news to her cheating on her numerous times, physically abusive, mentally abusive to her and would stalk her once we started dating to the point he slashed my tires when I was at her apartment and broke in and started a fight with me when I was there. Not to mention bi-polar alcoholic.
She stopped all contact with him for some time, but he would still text her every now and again while drunk just rambling, but she would tell me about it.
I found out that recently he texted her again in the beginning of winter with the same kind of stuff and she told me she texted him back to say how happy she was with me and how he screwed up, apparently this had been going on for months with the texting.
I saw our phone bill and she was texting daily and phone calls at least 2-3 times a week.
I tried to send my sister an e-card and discovered that she was sending him e-cards for the past few months. I asked her about it and she told me it was nothing and it meant nothing to her that is why she didn't tell me, she said it was just a stupid thing on her part.
I asked why did she send him e-cards and she couldn't explain other then it was a stupid decision on her part. She's changed her story about why she was talking to him, 1st she said it was to screw with his head, and now she tells me she spoke to him to give him advice. She said she doesn't want to be friends with him just likes to know that he is OK.
She said that he wants to talk to her again, for a "final time" this would be about the 4th time it's been the final time from him.
What bothers me is that she doesn't seem upset at all about this, like she's acting as a teenager who got busted with beer or something. She said she didn't tell me cause I would just tell her to stop talking to him.
I don't believe it was ever anything physical cause she doesn't sneak out or does the whole girl's night out thing, I mean am I just blowing this out of proportion and making something out of nothing? Is there more that I am not seeing? Anyone?
Let's begin, I have been married for almost 2 years now with a woman I had dated for 2 years prior. Things are/were great and we have had a very good marriage as far as I can see.
The problem is that she is still talking to her ex-boyfriend via text, cell phone, and sending him e-cards. This guy was total bad news to her cheating on her numerous times, physically abusive, mentally abusive to her and would stalk her once we started dating to the point he slashed my tires when I was at her apartment and broke in and started a fight with me when I was there. Not to mention bi-polar alcoholic.
She stopped all contact with him for some time, but he would still text her every now and again while drunk just rambling, but she would tell me about it.
I found out that recently he texted her again in the beginning of winter with the same kind of stuff and she told me she texted him back to say how happy she was with me and how he screwed up, apparently this had been going on for months with the texting.
I saw our phone bill and she was texting daily and phone calls at least 2-3 times a week.
I tried to send my sister an e-card and discovered that she was sending him e-cards for the past few months. I asked her about it and she told me it was nothing and it meant nothing to her that is why she didn't tell me, she said it was just a stupid thing on her part.
I asked why did she send him e-cards and she couldn't explain other then it was a stupid decision on her part. She's changed her story about why she was talking to him, 1st she said it was to screw with his head, and now she tells me she spoke to him to give him advice. She said she doesn't want to be friends with him just likes to know that he is OK.
She said that he wants to talk to her again, for a "final time" this would be about the 4th time it's been the final time from him.
What bothers me is that she doesn't seem upset at all about this, like she's acting as a teenager who got busted with beer or something. She said she didn't tell me cause I would just tell her to stop talking to him.
I don't believe it was ever anything physical cause she doesn't sneak out or does the whole girl's night out thing, I mean am I just blowing this out of proportion and making something out of nothing? Is there more that I am not seeing? Anyone?