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jeepgrl015
Feb 10, 2009, 07:25 PM
Okay, in August my boyfriend left of 5yrs. I have been on several dates and I never considered myself to be a picky person but from these dates I have learned what I do and Don't want in a relationship. For example, I give credit to the single mothers and fathers out there, but other kids and what kind of drama comes along with that is just NOT for me. Another thing is the living at home situation with no career in sight. I am currently living at home due to the circumstances that my family was in and I am still in school for medical assisting.

I feel as though there are no good guys left. They are either broke, living at home or have baby mama drama. Times are rough financially so when I say broke I don't mean poor. I mean they have no financial ambitions and expect ME to pay for the first date when they are the ones that asked me out. Cmon guys... if you cannot afford to date, don't date. Are there any suggestions from women out there? HOPE? I feel as though I mightve had everything and now I messed that opportunity...

tabslongs89
Feb 10, 2009, 08:05 PM
I wouldn't say that you had everything, but I don't really know what your situation was with the guy that you had been with for 5 years. But believe me, great guys are still out there. After I left my boyfriend I went on, mostly just first, dates with guys that summer and I was starting to feel like I wasn't going to find anyone and gave up on looking. But then I met my current boyfriend and of course like every couple we've had our rough spots. I say just give it sometime and in my case, I found the perfect guy for me once I wasn't actually "looking" anymore.
Also, I don't know where you're meeting these guys but that could have something to do with it? And no need to rush into finding another guy... what's wrong with being single?

jeepgrl015
Feb 10, 2009, 09:25 PM
I wouldn't say that you had everything, but i don't really know what your situation was with the guy that you had been with for 5 years. But believe me, great guys are still out there. After i left my boyfriend i went on, mostly just first, dates with guys that summer and i was starting to feel like i wasn't going to find anyone and gave up on looking. But then i met my current boyfriend and of course like every couple we've had our rough spots. I say just give it sometime and in my case, i found the perfect guy for me once i wasn't actually "looking" anymore.
Also, i don't know where you're meeting these guys but that could have something to do with it? And no need to rush into finding another guy... what's wrong with being single?

I've always been the relationship type girl and I hate being single. All of my friends are either engaged,married or in a serious relationship and it sucks being the only one left out.

tabslongs89
Feb 10, 2009, 09:44 PM
ive always been the relationship type girl and i hate being single. All of my friends are either engaged,married or in a serious relationship and it sucks being the only one left out.

Are you at least happy? Or able to be happy single? I know what you mean though... it isn't nearly as fun to be single in my opinion either. But at least you're not just settling so that you're not single!