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Chameleon24
Feb 10, 2009, 06:19 PM
I've been seeing a guy for a few months now. I really like him, he makes me happy. A few weeks ago I started thinking I might be in love with him. I get these little 'sparks' sometimes... I don't even know how to explain it. Sometimes I get them when I'm with him and sometimes when I'm away and just thinking about him. They're just these little feelings of extreme happiness. At first I wasn't thinking too much about it, I figured it wasn't important. Since I wasn't 100% sure, I thought maybe I wasn't in love with him. Maybe my feelings are just getting stronger... it seems like if I was actually in love with him then I would 'know' I was and wouldn't be questioning it.

I feel I should let him know this... whether it's love or stronger feelings or whatever. But I'm too scared to do this. I think it's because I'm afraid of what his reaction would be. I don't really think he feels the same way back. I know he really cares about me, but I'm not really sure where he stands on other things. And I'm also scared he might freak if I tell him.

I've just been feeling so overwelmed with a lot of stuff in my life now. I've been doing so much thinking... stuff concerning school, my career outlook, finances, getting a new place and social life situations. This with my boyfriend is just added to the mix and I'm not sure if I'm just overthinking things or what. Why would I be afraid to let him know this?

plonak
Feb 10, 2009, 09:01 PM
I don't think you're really in love with him, in my opinion, you are probably infatuated with him, that can cause extreme emotions and can be very exciting.

If you guys have been dating for just a couple months I think you should just relax and let things go naturally.. don't push the matter with him too early.. just continue getting to know each other.. and just keep focusing on your life and goals

A boyfriend isn't supposed to BE your life, he's soposed to be a nice addition, remember that