Cherrymorphine
Feb 10, 2009, 01:38 AM
All right, I'm having issues with this and just need insight on what to do.
I'll sum it up. About 8 months ago, I had a crush on this guy that I had met mutually through a friend. We became best friends shortly after. Occasionally he would visit me at my house. We would fool around (kissing, cuddling), but nothing more than that. He visited me a total of 4x (one of these days he had left me during the night for the ex). During those four times, he would be single, but soon after get back with his first love, who broke his heart consecutively. Then he would run back to me. She has major issues, and repeatedly destroys him so their relationship never lasts. Then he would come cry to me about it, and I would console him.
This past Christmas, about a week before, he had finally asked me out after severing all contact with her because she was just nothing but trouble and heartbreak. We were together for about a month and a half before he broke up with me and 2 days later, gets back with her AGAIN.
I'm at a loss. He was my first love, and I gave him the world. The breakup caused me to become physically sick, and I would lay in bed days crying. I know we had some issues, but nothing scarring. We are compatible. I don't understand what to do, and it's tearing me apart. I know she is bad for him, and it upsets me that he will never learn. Are they simply DESTINED to be dysfunctional with each other and marry? I was going to bring him with me to Europe as a surprise this year... I want him back more than anything in the world, and I want him to see that I'm the cure for him, not her.
Is she still the same? She knows me, and was threatened. Has this experience possibly changed her outlook and she will never let him go again? :mad: I heard she is seeking counseling, but honestly, the negative associations he has for her have to take place somewhere. She has hurt him at least 7x, in major ways.
What the hell do I do? Do I text him, begging him back? I cannot move on, because he's the only person I want to build my future with, but the damn ex keeps getting in the way. Help.
I'll sum it up. About 8 months ago, I had a crush on this guy that I had met mutually through a friend. We became best friends shortly after. Occasionally he would visit me at my house. We would fool around (kissing, cuddling), but nothing more than that. He visited me a total of 4x (one of these days he had left me during the night for the ex). During those four times, he would be single, but soon after get back with his first love, who broke his heart consecutively. Then he would run back to me. She has major issues, and repeatedly destroys him so their relationship never lasts. Then he would come cry to me about it, and I would console him.
This past Christmas, about a week before, he had finally asked me out after severing all contact with her because she was just nothing but trouble and heartbreak. We were together for about a month and a half before he broke up with me and 2 days later, gets back with her AGAIN.
I'm at a loss. He was my first love, and I gave him the world. The breakup caused me to become physically sick, and I would lay in bed days crying. I know we had some issues, but nothing scarring. We are compatible. I don't understand what to do, and it's tearing me apart. I know she is bad for him, and it upsets me that he will never learn. Are they simply DESTINED to be dysfunctional with each other and marry? I was going to bring him with me to Europe as a surprise this year... I want him back more than anything in the world, and I want him to see that I'm the cure for him, not her.
Is she still the same? She knows me, and was threatened. Has this experience possibly changed her outlook and she will never let him go again? :mad: I heard she is seeking counseling, but honestly, the negative associations he has for her have to take place somewhere. She has hurt him at least 7x, in major ways.
What the hell do I do? Do I text him, begging him back? I cannot move on, because he's the only person I want to build my future with, but the damn ex keeps getting in the way. Help.