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purplemist
Feb 8, 2009, 11:57 PM
I am a 22 year old girl. I have been seeing a guy for the last 2 years.However I met a guy at my offfice who I think loves me more than my current boyfriend does and he knows that currently I am in a relationship. I think I like both of them so am confused how to go about the whole thing? If I want to have a break up with my current boyfriend how to go about it without hurting him much and if I want to get rid of the guy in my office how to go about that without hurting him much?

mintah50
Feb 9, 2009, 12:09 AM
These are some of the things you have to ask yourself
1. Do you have problems with your current boyfriend?
2. What are the things that makes you think the guy at your office loves you?
3. Make sure the decision you make is best for you and you not the bad person in the long run.

purplemist
Feb 9, 2009, 12:30 AM
My current boyfriend is a vry good person but he has silly issues... as in he is a conservative by nature about my clothes and the way I should behave when I meet his friends... which gets irritating at times and we have had silly fights on these topics.

cutehanzel
Feb 9, 2009, 12:41 AM
Adage goes " you cannot serve two masters at the same.." you must choose which of them.. if you are not sure about your feelings with your boyfriend.. ask some space perhaps.. no matter what you say still its painful if he really loves you but its more painful when he will discover that you love someone else while your are still committed with him.. my point of view...

Aprilmay12
Feb 9, 2009, 12:45 AM
I think if there is any doubt about your relationship with your boyfriend, then you should not be together. To me, a boyfriend should be someone that you would choose over anyone. If you have feelings for someone else, it's not fair for you or for him. If you do decide to breakup with him, honesty is key. The truth might hurt, but in the long run he will probably respect you more for it.

talaniman
Feb 9, 2009, 06:22 AM
If you were single you could date who you wanted. The last thing you should do is start messing with the office guy, and leading your b/f on, that's not fair, that's cheating. Either be a loyal partner, or be single.

ardahk
Feb 9, 2009, 06:35 AM
I am going to be biased in whatever I say because my ex led me on while having feelings for another person. She had known me for 5 years, long long history, we were in love way before we even started going out and she fell in love with another guy who loved her too (while she was going out with me).. She couldn't make a decision, not wanting to hurt either of us. I made the decision for her and told her that I loved her too much to stay around and witness this, and that I have to respect myself. Its been 2 weeks and I have no intention of talking to her, need to move on and get straight.

I would advise that you don't let this continue on to the point where a decision is impossible to make, split between 2 people you love.

But what I will say is not to forget how much you and your boyfriend have shared in those 2 years and am sure more. He knows you much much more than this other one.

One thing is for sure. Whatever you do now is going to hurt your boyfriend.

What you should ask yourself is who you love more? I know people are on here saying that even the fact that you like someone else shows you shouldn't be with your boyfriend but I don't see it that way. How many people are going to come along that we like and think we could connect with? The most important thing is how we react to that, if we walk away thinking we are in a committed loving relationship then you are fine, but if you don't and ending up continually chatting to this person then you are pretty much already cheating because you know he loves you and you know what can become of it.

Another word of note - relationships in the workplace aren't the best of ideas

Irishgirl
Feb 9, 2009, 06:53 AM
How do you know he loves you and doesn't lust you? I'd be weary of people who say they love me too soon,it show's immaturity, also if your boyfriend is telling you what to wear now imagine what its going to be like in years to come. You shouldn't need to control someone you love