Mommy of 4
Feb 8, 2009, 07:20 PM
My boyfriend is a Marine stationed in the state of California.. He technically by law is still married.. However his wife/ex-wife left the state of California with his two children back in Aug. and moved to Wis. With her family. When he found out about this he tried to contact her many times she would not answer finally sent a txt and said when we make it to my sisters I will let you talk to the boys. He then called the police and was told that there was nothing that could be done since neither of them had custody orders and they were married and both had equal rights to them. So he hired a lawyer to file for divorce and sole custody of the children.. He then found out he was set to deploy to Iraq in Feb. and went to Wis to visit his family and his children on his pre-deployment leave. When getting the children and their bag of clothes he first had to bathe the children cause they were very nasty and dirty then went to put clean clothes of them and opened the bag to find that the clothes she sent had animal poop with them in the bag and smelled really bad.. He then had to buy new clothes and wash the ones she sent then to find out that only about 2 outfits a piece fit them the rest were way to big or way to small. And when she gave them to him she gave him a can of formula and told him that the youngest (1 1/2 years old) could not eat food and had to have 2 formula bottles a day to keep weight on him. This child was starving!! You could see his ribs. He then had to take him to the ER cause he could not breath! His wife/ex-wife said "DO NOT give him any medication it only makes it worse he is getting better!!" The ER doctor told him he has Pneumonia, double ear infection in both ears, and Asthma really bad! Gave him antibiotics and nebulizer medication. After all of this then came to realize where she was living with the children was a 2 room broke down trailer with 8 people. He then contacted his lawyer and command and told them he was not giving them back to her she was unfit and he was taking them back to California with him. His command agreed and took him off the deployment list. He since has found out she had NEVER taken them to a well child appointment or ever got them their immunizations. ( He pays their health 100%) He made Dr. appointments and took them in got them started on their immunizations, has potty trained the oldest, (3 years) and got them both appointments for speech therapy evaluations.. They both have fluid on their ears so he was told a proper eval could not be done until it was treated they have fallow up appointments with their Dr. to check on it and if not gone refer to ears, nose, and throat Dr. to have tubes put in. Then the oldest can see the school nurse for hearing and vision tests. Also as added this "girl" has never worked! He has the children she is not paying anything in support in fact he is still being ordered by the Military to pay her 405.00 a month. She has MANY issues! Cutting herself, hitting him when she gets angry, and making big scenes in public when she does not get her way are just to name a few.. The children now living with their father live in a 3 bed room home with a large back yard. They have adjusted very well and are both mostly over being sick. She has filed a petition to have him bring the children back to Wis. He was granted leave by his command and has left to go to the hearing. His lawyer told him it would be best to not bring the children into the state at this time so he has not taken them with him.. PLEASE if anyone has any advice we would love to hear from you! Negative or Positive we know this could be a long shot of him getting to keep them but also know it has happened before.