backtoyoubabe0715
Feb 8, 2009, 02:36 AM
One of my friends and I hooked up when we both had too much to drink. At the time I didn't think anything of it, kind of like a "Oops, that was dumb but not too bad because I don't really want anything meaningful right now." I assumed he felt the same.
Afterwards, things were mostly normal between him and I, but he was starting to make me nervous by acting a lot different then he normally does, like calling just to talk (we usually don't talk on the phone that much, just hang out) Then he tried to kiss me on New Years, and kind of just gave off a completely different vibe then I was feeling. Not wanting to hurt his feelings, I tried to not return his affections. After him acting all in like with me and scaring the poop out of me, he finally says that he's not looking for a relationship much to my relief, and I tell him about how I was in the same boat. And here is where I made a mistake by actually taking a man and what he says to heart, we had sex again (mistake), because I figured it was no strings.
Well since that night, he has been a complete 180. He actively avoided me for three weeks, which really irritated me and confused me, because here I was thinking that at least as a friend he could spare me some decency and be honest. Then out of blue, after obviously treating me horribly (saying mean things, lying to our mutual best friend about me, ignoring my phone calls) he has the audacity to call me, ask me to come over (mind you it is four o clock in the morning), get very upset with me when I say no, Refuses to accept no for an answer, Threatens to call me every hour until I said yes, then gets super angry and tells me that I value my schedule and my needs over his friendship after I told him I was going to bed, then proceeded to hang up on me. Today he showed up at my best friend's house (who is also his best friend) and acted hunky dory like nothing ever happened.
After the whole phone call, I feel really upset that he could so blatantly disrespect me, then not even bat an eyelash after doing so. He's never treated me poorly before, and we have been platonic friends for about three years now. Before we hooked up, he always was trying to get in my pants, so I don't know if that constitutes as platonic if he's told me before that he is attracted to me. I know that I definitely should not have had sex with him again that night, but it's in the past. So now I need to gather myself respect (I'm really trying to preserve it here because I feel really dirty and used) by putting distance between himself and I. Does anyone know how I should approach the situation? Should I talk to him about his behavior? Or should I ignore it? I feel bad that I have to resort to an internet site for advice once again, but I feel awfully censored when I talk to my best friend who knows him so well because I feel she is obligated to protect him also. I would ask someone their opinion of his behavior, but now after seeing his actions written down, I really don't care.
Is it wrong of me to want to end a friendship over this? Or is this my fault?
I'm so confused. Help me please... :(
Afterwards, things were mostly normal between him and I, but he was starting to make me nervous by acting a lot different then he normally does, like calling just to talk (we usually don't talk on the phone that much, just hang out) Then he tried to kiss me on New Years, and kind of just gave off a completely different vibe then I was feeling. Not wanting to hurt his feelings, I tried to not return his affections. After him acting all in like with me and scaring the poop out of me, he finally says that he's not looking for a relationship much to my relief, and I tell him about how I was in the same boat. And here is where I made a mistake by actually taking a man and what he says to heart, we had sex again (mistake), because I figured it was no strings.
Well since that night, he has been a complete 180. He actively avoided me for three weeks, which really irritated me and confused me, because here I was thinking that at least as a friend he could spare me some decency and be honest. Then out of blue, after obviously treating me horribly (saying mean things, lying to our mutual best friend about me, ignoring my phone calls) he has the audacity to call me, ask me to come over (mind you it is four o clock in the morning), get very upset with me when I say no, Refuses to accept no for an answer, Threatens to call me every hour until I said yes, then gets super angry and tells me that I value my schedule and my needs over his friendship after I told him I was going to bed, then proceeded to hang up on me. Today he showed up at my best friend's house (who is also his best friend) and acted hunky dory like nothing ever happened.
After the whole phone call, I feel really upset that he could so blatantly disrespect me, then not even bat an eyelash after doing so. He's never treated me poorly before, and we have been platonic friends for about three years now. Before we hooked up, he always was trying to get in my pants, so I don't know if that constitutes as platonic if he's told me before that he is attracted to me. I know that I definitely should not have had sex with him again that night, but it's in the past. So now I need to gather myself respect (I'm really trying to preserve it here because I feel really dirty and used) by putting distance between himself and I. Does anyone know how I should approach the situation? Should I talk to him about his behavior? Or should I ignore it? I feel bad that I have to resort to an internet site for advice once again, but I feel awfully censored when I talk to my best friend who knows him so well because I feel she is obligated to protect him also. I would ask someone their opinion of his behavior, but now after seeing his actions written down, I really don't care.
Is it wrong of me to want to end a friendship over this? Or is this my fault?
I'm so confused. Help me please... :(