Hey, any time I have asked a question I have always gotten some really hopeful and helpful answers- so here goes...

My boyfriend will be moving to europe for a great job opportunity in just a few weeks... he really wants my son and I to come and feels he is ready to be a family, taking this job because it is a career with better pay, security and hours... the thing is that he will be in europe and I will be in the u.s for 4 months before meeting with him there...

In a way it's good because it gives me time to tie up some loose ends here, and he can find a flat that will accommodate all 3 of us and get settled in his job b/f we get there...

What are some good points of advice to make the 4 months work in our favor? I am a bit worried that this time will create an emotional distance b/tween us.

I also am worried that our worries will get the better of us (what is he/she doing). We have been apart for 2-3 before and it's been fine, but 4 months is quite a bit longer...

Also, we have not even spoken about fears of cheating, etc. 4 months is quite a bit of time alone and apart, and I think it's best to not even think of these things because it complicates an already (slightly) complicated situation..

Does any one have any advice on how to make it work, how to avoid worries, suspicions and all those crazy mind-games that come up when you are far apart from the one you love? Thanks so much!

Why would you worry about cheating, if your both in love with each other? He sounds like he really loves you and your son. Four months goes fast, enjoy your time here until you get too Europe, and start your new life. It's a new beginning for you. Keep yourself busy go out with your friends here, while your still in the US. And then make the most of Europe. Good luck.

Thanks so much for your quick answer! I think I worry because it feels like it'll be a long time! And because everyone seems to think this is a concern- I have resigned myself not to even think about that though, and my boyfriend has done the same... in the mean time it gives us a great chance to prepare and miss each other- and enjoy the thrill of seeing each other after so long!!


Thanks so much again- your answer really helped!!

This may help,

Long Distance Relationship Advice | The Frisky (http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-handle-this-seven-ways-to-survive-a-long-distance-relationship/?cnn=yes)