How Long does sex without any performance enhancement drug actually last?

It depends on whether you are referring to intercourse or the entire session of intimacy. It also depends on the individuals involved.

For my partner and I, 20 minutes to an hour. But it all depends on the mans control.

I have read recent studies that say that the *average* time of male *stroking* is between 3-10 minutes.

Add some time for foreplay.

Add some time for after-nuzzling.

That makes a sexual encounter anywhere from 4 minutes to a several of hours. :D

Of course, I'm making the point that it depends on the time both people want to put into it... urgency-passion, a quickie, a languid afternoon, and so on.

I was wondering that too, I mean just sex no foreplay or anything else. In my experience I've had guys who lasted an hour, and guys who lasted 1 minute or less, so I don't know what would be considered normal or average, but I would like to know.

It really does depend on the people involved, how much foreplay before actual penetration, etc. etc. etc.

My husband and I spend a long time on foreplay, touching, kissing, etc. so once we actually get to the penetration part of sex yes, it can last only a few minutes because we're both already primed.

There have been times when we've had sessions that last for hours, but that's usually when we don't concentrate on foreplay as much.

I don't think there is an average, that would be too hard to determine.

My fiance' and I go anywhere from 30 seconds to 1 hour of intercourse. A lot of factors come into play. How long it has been for me, wearing a condom or not, how horny I actually am (it does matter, the more horny I am the faster I usually get off), the position, etc.

There really is no norm... if he gets off quickly, have him try wearing a regular condom, the thickness cuts down on he sensitivity and can make him last longer.

I'm 47. To me its 45 minute to an hour on average... has been as long as four hours on one occasion.. and I have never even once taken anything to enhance performance in my life. ANd that's without condoms to deaden the feeling... ( I'm married so its safe in this case.)

If I'm pissed at my roommate, two or more hours and as ruthless as humanly possible.

I noticed after my vasectomy I can go a lot longer. My wife is not much into foreplay so its usually me going down on her till she is ready then the intercourse.

Before my vasectomy 10 to 15 min. tops. After the vasectomy I can go an hour or more. Many times I can't get of if she does not well give me a hand for a lack of a better term.

I would have to agree there is no real average, just depends on many situations.

Hate to ask a juestion in a question but has any one else noticed a diffrence after a vasectomy?

My hubby had a vasectomy, it's had the same effect on him. I don't kow if that's the same for every man though.

[QUOTE=JJCH;1520253]My fiance' and I go anywhere from 30 seconds to 1 hour of intercourse.

1 HOUR!!?!?!?!?!? Thats not even possible

Yes, it is. I've had episodes that lasted 4 hours. Anything is possible, never say never. :)

The actual time of intercourse is usually 3 to 5 minutes,provided there has been ample foreplay.Certain factors can extent that duration,if a man has been drinking or has taken drugs,it is then up to an hour or more.The degrees of variation are endless,these are just averages.

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Yes, it is. I've had episodes that lasted 4 hours. Anything is possible, never say never. :)

Ya possible... but enjoyable??

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My fiance' and I go anywhere from 30 seconds to 1 hour of intercourse.

1 HOUR!! That's not even possible


Ya possible... but enjoyable??

I didn't expect to be surprised by anything in this thread, but I most certainly am.

Is it enjoyable? Yes, yes and yes. I suppose it's as enjoyable as one finds sex to be enjoyable. Think of it this way. If you're a woman who experiences multiple orgasms, or even if you're a woman who just really enjoys the process, how could it be anything other than fun? I think it's a totally different experience than quickie sex. Just about the only way to describe it would be to say that it's a virtually religious experience. I had a very long term boyfriend who averaged close to an hour, and the sex was always amazing. Just because it's been asked, I will highlight that it was also without any substance like alcohol in his system that would change his body's response time. He was also able to go 5 minutes for a quickie if necessary, so I just think he just had a lot of control. I was also going to write the part about going 4 hours. I once mentioned it during a conversation with one of my friends, and he was shocked. I was also shocked that not everyone does that. If only everyone had sex like that, I think this world would be a much happier place. :P

If I had been forced to guess an average, I would have thought 15-35 minutes. Is that really so off?

As for the comment about 3-5 minutes being average, I can't imagine that to be true. If that's average, what would classify as premature ejaculation? If it's only going for 3-5 minutes, it's no wonder so many women post about not achieving orgasm during sex. Would 3-5 minutes even warrant the time it takes to put on a condom? I mean, if you're going to finish that quickly because of the extent of foreplay, well, I would think it might be best to just follow through with the foreplay.

Ahem. Now I'm a little embarrassed, but I don't know how to say these things any other way. This is most certainly a fascinating thread after all.

I was under the impression that we are talking about penetration.

If I am correct then I stick by what I said.

If we're talking about the entire act, then the more time the better ;)

Actually, I was only talking about penetration. If we were to include acts of foreplay into that calculation, well, I guess you could say that it could go on for much longer. For my ex-boyfriend, intercourse averaging close to an hour. Let's say in a 4 hour session, which would only take place every now and then, like during a whole day in bed, there might be a 15 minute break or two (or even up to three); still, a whole lot of that time is spent on actual intercourse. I know I'm not the only one. That's part of what makes tantric sex what it is. You can go on for a very long time.my best guess on the average man? 15-35 minutes, some closer to the 10 minute mark and some exceeding the 35 minute mark. Like I said, though, that's just my guess. I don't actually know, though. I would think that anything in the 5 minute range would be considered pretty fast. Then again, I really don't know what any studies on the subject say.

Several factors here. But to cut to the basic, crude act of physical penetration only, it still depends on individual conditioning and any number of variables for each physical act.

Before my wife, I never knew what a "quickie" was. My impression was that a man wasn't a man unless he was a marathon man. Average before my wife's "training", was two hours. After my wife's "training", 15 minutes. We can knock it out for both in as little as one minute, or go full-on marathon for as long as we care to perform the physical exertion. Every couple will have different variables that are specific to them, their physical ability, emotional needs, and conditioning.

You can help any partner perform for as long or as short as you want them to simply by communicating and using self control. Don't be afraid to talk about it before, during, and after intercourse. If you want a quickie, let them know before you start. If you want an all-nighter, let them know and help them achieve it. How long sex lasts is not to be placed solely on the man, you can help him last as long as you want him to.

Side note: Vasectomy: Best thing ever. For me though, it's a psychological improvement instead of a physical one. I notice no physical change in form or function than pre-vasectomy.

actually, i was only talking about penetration. if we were to include acts of foreplay into that calculation, well, i guess you could say that it could go on for much longer. for my ex-boyfriend, intercourse averaging close to an hour. let's say in a 4 hour session, which would only take place every now and then, like during a whole day in bed, there might be a 15 minute break or two (or even up to three); still, a whole lot of that time is spent on actual intercourse. i know i'm not the only one. that's part of what makes tantric sex what it is. you can go on for a very long time.my best guess on the average man? 15-35 minutes, some closer to the 10 minute mark and some exceeding the 35 minute mark. like i said, though, that's just my guess. i don't actually know, though. i would think that anything in the 5 minute range would be considered pretty fast. then again, i really don't know what any studies on the subject say.

The times I quoted earlier, including the 4 hour session was not including foreplay. And no that wasn't jackhammer style marathon... I'm talking slow and easy.

The times I quoted earlier, including the 4 hour session was not including foreplay. And no that wasn't jackhammer style marathon.....I'm talking slow and easy.

I don't know if it could have been read otherwise, but just to be sure, I was talking about my own experience. Certainly this was something that happened enough times that it couldn't be written the same way twice. As I imagine has been the case for you, it's one of those things where you know about what time it was when you started, and you notice the time after it's over, but you wonder where all of that time in the middle went. It's completely entrenching. Also, any potential breaks in that which I referenced would be for recovery time for him if he had climaxed. That doesn't mean that the play has to stop. Needless to say, looking at the clock at any point during that kind of intimate contact doesn't really hold a primary place in one's mind. smoothy, I definitely agree that low and slow is fundamental to long sex, as is communication (spoken or unspoken), alternating the flow, etc..

I think that there are times for quickies, times for long, passionate love making, and times for everything in between. (it almost sounds like a peter, paul and mary song, doesn't it?) I won't say that I know what most couples do because I have no idea what other people's intimate relationships are really like, but I'm not sure how much of the population does engage in the kind of wholesome play that pushes through the initial perception of what sex can really be. The thing that brings this to mind is the impression that at least some people, from their upbringing, etc. have an image of sex as being naughty or dirty in some way. If you think about sex like that, I don't know if you can almost surrender to the experience and let it take you to places, both mentally and physically, that it can really go. I meant it when I said that it can be an almost religious experience. Of course, I hope I'm wrong. The more happy, loving sex there is out there, the more likely it is that the world would spin in a better mood. :)

Not all men achieve orgasm at the same time, but I don't think that it means that the sex can't be even better with someone who doesn't hold it back for so long. I do believe that the quality of the sex comes from the quality of the connection between the two people involved.

If anyone is looking to extend their response time, I would recommend skimming the surface on tantric sex. I haven't studied it seriously, but what I have learned has been valuable to me in understanding sex differently. No, I'm not talking about something that's all fruity-tutty and fairy dusted. There are physical "tricks" involved, and the emotional connection is meant to become only more profound.

Alty and smoothy, it's interesting that four hours has come up in each of these situations as a ending time. I wonder if there's something to that.

Okay, I'm waiting for someone to call the five hour mark next. Then the seven and the nine. If you want, later we can compare the size of our wizards.

I can't see ever pulling a 5 hour one even if I tried... we just have too much to do for that.

No this didn't involve recovery time... no multiple pops... wife gets sore when you push into those numbers anyway then where is the enjoyment.

Its about quality... not quantity. Pushing for mulitples clearly moves it into the quantity for quantities sake area forgoing quality.

But it did involve a fair amount of self control. After all without that very, very few guys are going to pull those numbers. How did I know the times... I've always had an alarm clock on the nightstand next to the bed. Hard not to see it.

I can't see ever pulling a 5 hour one even if I tried....we just have too much to do for that.

No this didn't involve recovery time......no multiple pops...wife gets sore when you push into those numbers anyway then where is the enjoyment.

Its about quality...not quantity. Pushing for mulitples clearly moves it into the quantity for quantities sake area forgoing quality.

But it did involve a fair amount of self control. After all without that very, very few guys are going to pull those numbers. How did I know the times... I've always had an alarm clock on the nightstand next to the bed. Hard not to see it.

Okay, smoothy, you know that I like you, but this is just getting silly. Seriously, the 4 hour versus 5 hour thing is laughable. Also, the "pushing for multiples" and "quantity for quantities sake" argument is ridiculous. The opposite argument to your "orgasm minimizing quality" comments could be made just as easily. I just don't see the point. What does someone else know if they weren't there? This conversation and almost one-up-manship has gotten weird. If you want to claim an award, you can pretend that you won it because I don't believe anyone else is partaking in the competition.

The reason I posted was to share in the building of facts, opinions and personal experiences in answer to the question, and hearing what others have had to say on the subject was certainly interesting. If this thread turns back to enlightening information, it would only be to its benefit. Comparing the pleasure felt by one's own penis to the pleasure felt by their neighbor's penis would be pointless.

okay, smoothy, you know that i like you, but this is just getting silly. seriously, the 4 hour versus 5 hour thing is laughable. also, the "pushing for multiples" and "quantity for quantities sake" argument is ridiculous. the opposite argument to your "orgasm minimizing quality" comments could be made just as easily. i just don't see the point. what does someone else know if they weren't there? this conversation and almost one-up-manship has gotten weird. if you want to claim an award, you can pretend that you won it because i don't believe anyone else is partaking in the competition.

the reason i posted was to share in the building of facts, opinions and personal experiences in answer to the question, and hearing what others have had to say on the subject was certainly interesting. if this thread turns back to enlightening information, it would only be to its benefit. comparing the pleasure felt by one's own penis to the pleasure felt by their neighbor's penis would be pointless.
No one upmanships here, I couldn't care less who or how many would beat that (or even come close). More power to them... I hardly consider more than an hour normal by any means on the average. Nor have I ever pushed the wife or any previous girlfriend past the point they expressed being comfortible. That would be just plain dumb as well as selfish. Its more in the spirit of what someone is capable of if one takes the initative and has the will. Its all about knowing ones self and striving for the best you can be. And having heard the stories here from so many women I think that its something far more men should strive for. True that everyone has limitations... but how does someone learn what they are without trying... The opposite end is guys that think of only one thing... getting off and going to sleep. Not giving a damn how little time that might take. And yeah, if a guy doesn't try most if not all will get off before the average woman even gets warmed up.

I've done the whole, "Hi hon, you want pancakes for breakfast?" and ended up into a 10-minute furlough, and I've also done the whole, "::heavy breathing:: ::checks time:: HOLY COW! IT'S 6AM?!? I HAVE CLASS IN 2 HOURS!!!"

... so... avg... is... relative.

I've done the whole, "Hi hon, you want pancakes for breakfast?" and ended up into a 10-minute furlough, and I've also done the whole, "::heavy breathing:: ::checks time:: HOLY COW! IT'S 6AM?!? I HAVE CLASS IN 2 HOURS!!!"

...so...avg...is...relative.

That's why I never haf 8 am clases

That can depend on many factors -- age, health, how much sleep you've both had recently, are there kids in the house? do you want it to take a long time?. There's no set formula.

I can usually go 7.8 seconds sometimes as much as 8 full seconds.

Ladies, I'm single and available.