:mad:My mother and father divorced when I was 5. I don't remember being stressed or lost during this time. I do remember my parents fighting over who would have custody of the kids. And to be honest I would have rather been without either of them. My father is a loser. He is selfish and thinks only of himself and nobody else. When I was 17 I had my first son. In 2001-02 my father offered me my great-grandmothers home, but said he would have to stay there for a little bit until he got a place of his own. He then used me and my money (which I got for selling my mobile home) to have flooring put into this house that he tore out to begin with. Then 6wks later kicked me and my 2 children out. I haven't spoke with him since. I have written him off as a father or anything to me. Now, last year my mother lost her home. She had been staying at a friends cabin which was more than an hour away from her job,school for my brother, pretty much everything. And with the gas prices the way that they were she was pretty much working just to drive back and forth to work. So my fiancé and I offered for her,my brother and her boyfriend to stay with us until they got back on their feet. But they would be asked to give us $200.00 a month to help with bills and nessecities. They both agreed. This was at the beginning of September 2008. Now I have been forced to kick them out and am stuck with their stuff filling up my basment as well as my garage. I asked her to have her things out by Feb. 1st. She was asked this at the beginning of January and has had 30days to do this. She has shown no effort at all to get this done. I want my house back and she doesn't get it. I am EXTREMELY frustrated at this point and am writing her off as a mother because she will never change. She lived with me my bills went up she used my shampoo,cond. laundry soap,tp EVERYTHING and never once paid me a dime for any of it. And if we were out of something she would have to be asked to pick some up. I am disgusted by the way she lives her life and I just don't understand how I could have lived my whole life with someone like that and turned out the complete opposite. I would never treat my children the way that my parents did me and my sister. And now all that I have is my children and my fiancé. I have no family of my own. My father is a loser, my mother is a loser and my dad's side of the family I don't talk to because they make me feel like not talking to my father is wrong and that I should keep a relationship with him. Why would I want to he makes me feel like sh** and he kicked me and my kids out of a home he promised me only for us to have nowhere to go. F him. I don't need someone like that in my life. But then again it hurts because I am his daughter, doesn't he care? Doesn't he naturally love me? I guess not. Now my mother all I have ever done my whole life it take care of my sister while she went to every bar in town every night to get smashed. And now to this day I am still trying to help her. And I think with her living with me and me being able to compare my life to hers I FINALLY realize I am enabling her by helping her and I just need to let her go. So I am trying and I can't even talk to her because she tries to give me a pity party for her. So writing her off and out of my life seems like the best thing for ME to do. This has taken an emotional toll on me. And I find myself wondering "Was I a bad person in my past life, did I do something so wrong that I deserve this type of family? Why don't my parents care? If there is any advice as to what my next step should be my ears are open. Please I'll take anything I can get right now.

No, you didn't do anything to deserve this. You just got a bad hand when the cards were dealt. You are correct, you can't enable them anymore. You need to live your life. Tell them they have until (DATE) to get their stuff out of your house or it will go on the lawn. And then you do it. Sell it, throw it away, whatever you want... you warned them.

Then, get yourself into therapy... you can learn a WHOLE lot... I did. It was amazing.

Stay strong and stick to your guns. I have had to do the same thing with my brother. He blames me for all his problems... yeah, OK.. like I twisted his arm a made him blow all of his inheritance and GARBAGE and have nothing left. Not my fault, or my problem to fix his problems AGAIN. I had to write him off and haven't spoken to him in over a year now. It sucks, he is the only immediate family I have left (both parents have passed) but I have no choice.

Good luck! Chin up!