Tomonline
Jan 27, 2009, 07:42 PM
My boyfriend and I have been in our relationship for about 10 months now.
When we first began to have sex we did so frequently. Not 3 times a day but at least once every other day. Now I am lucky if I get it once a week. When we do actually have any sort of sexual activity he never initiates it. I always have to bug him for it. I tried backing off for periods at a time but that only leads to my own emotional turmoil. I have openly spoken to him about it I the past and he gets very defensive about it. I don't attack him or criticize him I just ask why he never wants to be intimate with me anymore. When we are intimate on the rare occasion he doesn't put any effort into it. Last time we were intimate I serviced him orally for about 5 minutes and when he went down on me it was only 30 seconds before he stopped. This is really unlike him because he usually enjoys doing this. I try to be as open an talk as much as possible. Today I asked him before not going into the shower to not jerk off because I wanted him to save it for me. I went in to join him (thinking I coul spice things up) and he was jerking off! After not having sex for a week he's jerking off when I asked him not to!! I don't care if he materbates but please!
My gut says he is cheating. I don't know. Help.
It's too early in the relationship to lose the fire. I wonder if we ever had the fire in the first place.
When we first began to have sex we did so frequently. Not 3 times a day but at least once every other day. Now I am lucky if I get it once a week. When we do actually have any sort of sexual activity he never initiates it. I always have to bug him for it. I tried backing off for periods at a time but that only leads to my own emotional turmoil. I have openly spoken to him about it I the past and he gets very defensive about it. I don't attack him or criticize him I just ask why he never wants to be intimate with me anymore. When we are intimate on the rare occasion he doesn't put any effort into it. Last time we were intimate I serviced him orally for about 5 minutes and when he went down on me it was only 30 seconds before he stopped. This is really unlike him because he usually enjoys doing this. I try to be as open an talk as much as possible. Today I asked him before not going into the shower to not jerk off because I wanted him to save it for me. I went in to join him (thinking I coul spice things up) and he was jerking off! After not having sex for a week he's jerking off when I asked him not to!! I don't care if he materbates but please!
My gut says he is cheating. I don't know. Help.
It's too early in the relationship to lose the fire. I wonder if we ever had the fire in the first place.