Hello!

I have tangled myself into a web of problems regarding two different men. It all started over two months ago when I started crushing on an employee of a store that is in the same area of the mall that I work in. We began to flirt and talk when we were both working but I never thought anything serious would ever come of it. He ended up asking me to hang out about a month ago and things began to progress. I can safely say that I was never happier! After our winter vacation ended and we both began school again he started to drift away a bit... Things were going fairly well until last week when he made zero effort to see or talk to me. Well we ended up talking about what happened and he explained that he had a busy week and he didn't have any time, not even enough time to shoot me a message on MSN. To make things even worse, one of his fellow employees and friends has taken an interest in me. We have been hanging out a bit in the last week but it hasn't been anything serious, just talking and getting to know each other. Guy number two makes quite a bit of effort and is clear about his intentions and his feelings for me. My problem now is what to do... Do I wait it out and see if my original man is going to step up and sweep me off my feet once again or do I just forget about him and pursue guy number two who is ready for a relationship and commitment. Guy number one has my heart, even with his actions of the previous week, he just makes me crazy! I have some feelings for guy number two and over time I know I could start to really like him/ I would if my original man wasn't in the picture.

YOU CAN'T HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT TOO, BACK OFF BEFORE YOU BREAK TWO UNSUSPECTING HEARTS. SORRY PROBALY YOURS AS WELL.:cool:

You should back off from BOTH until you can decide what you want. You can't play with people's lives and feelings like that for your own pleasure?! Be prepared to lose one or both. You have started both relationships being dishonest! You are playing both ends against the middle, and that is going to backfire on you if you start with either of them this way. If you care for either of them, you won't do this.

These guys work together. Do you think they are never going to talk to each other? Even if you decide, do you think the other isn't going to figure out what's going on? Seriously? They will compare notes at some point!

How do you think Guy #2 will feel when he finds out you only chose him because you were waiting for Guy #1 to do something, but then he doesn't. So then you decide on Guy #2 who you could "learn" to have a serious relationship with. And if you decide on Guy #1, how is Guy #2 going to feel when he finds out he was the second choice, over Guy #1?

Is this starting to sound complicated? Well it should, because that's how it's going to be. Leave both of them alone until you've gotten your head on straight, and learned to get your feelings in check. Treat other people like you would like to be treated. With respect!

You are being incredibly selfish. You are dealing with people's emotions here remember.


Stop comparing two people. Two people will never be fairly evaluated against each other when dealing with a relationship. Guy no2 is new and exciting, guy no one is caring.. bla bla bla... it will never work. Back off and don't see either for a week or two and see how you feel. You will end up feeling like s*** and these guys will end up hurt if you continue like this.

While its okay to date whomever you want, its a red flag to date two guys who work together, and OBVIOUSLY talk to each other.

Leave them both alone, and get out of this confusing soap opera. Are they the only guys that give you attention or something?

I agree with Tal, it's okay to date around but if guy number 1 feels you are in a relationship than you could be considered cheating.

Stop playing a game with them and chose one or the other or neither