I like this guy in hi early thirties. He is a manager and is extremely busy. He has been good to me since I started working there. There seems to be a little rivalry between him and my own boss and they do not get along together. Anyway this guy was looking at me, even when I did not care to look at him on early days. Then when ever we meet he used to stare at me, go red, etc. I have a bit of a problem at home and when I told him this he told me to talk to him. He honestly wanted to help me. Although he liked me, I do not think he ever thought that a girl like me would like him a lot. It is that due to some reason, every time I tried to get away from him, he always kept looking back at me. For example when I told him that I won’t email him again, he told sorry and that he was busy. Each time I tried to get to know him, he backed off. He is not a jerk or bad guy. I think he got s some personal problems as well.
I told him that I need to top thinking about him, and he became very shy. He then told me get some friends, etc. He wanted to hear what I have to say and then all of a sudden (like he always does) he got moody and told he can’t help me. Then after a week he came and smiled at me.

I gave him a very general greeting card, and he was very happy. I went to office party with my boss. He was looking at me all the time during the party. This is one of the strongest things that indicated me he likes me, apart from the fact that he helps me. Anyway I deliberately avoided looking at him that day, in front of all those people. My boss too was looking closely at me, so I did not look at him a lot. Then when I went back to work he was humming songs when he saw me (could be he was with other too, don’t know), but I was very moody, didn’t look at him. He topped humming and now he really is not so communicative. But still looks at me. But now he looks at me as though he is very hurt, upset no smile in his face. He is rude and all that. But still helps me when I need help.

He talks with others a before. He goes near me but hardly speak to me. He even gave gifts to other ladies. I think he has his own problems, but I really wish we could have a nice talk and then I can know what is going on.

What do you think is going on here?

I think your getting carried away by a guy at work, and need to stop before you get in over your head.

Please, leave him alone, and squash the curiosity, before it makes problems at your job. Keep it professional, and business like at work, and stay out of office drama.