The title can be a little misleading but I'm not jealous of my best friend's friend. My best friend is mad cool. We shoot the and just chill we make mistakes n patch it up and we have been friends for almost 16 years and we don't hang out as much anymore but we're still close. No matter what we're always there for each other n we rock out. Problem being her friend. You know when you get the feeling that someone doesn't really like you and they rub you the wrong way? Well that's how I feel. The type of person that I am is that I will still welcome her into social things because that's my best friends friend and I welcome everyone. My door is open and there will always be plates and food for that person even if they rub me the wrong way I still welcome them for the respect of my friends.

I bought tickets to see a movie for my friends and for us to have a good time. Whenever I talk to this girl she flips the script to my best friend and her or she is just plain abrasive and if all else fails she would give me a look. Is she trying to compete or something? I'm trying to be fair and those who have met her say she is all right and her personality is one to adjust to with time. However I feel like she is always being y to me. It's so difficult to keep the peace when all I do is get shot. I always like to bring people together and keep it cool but somehow I feel I have to deal with this one on my own because I don't want to start anything. The best I can do is warn those who meet this girl for the first time so they don't flip. Honestly I'm not sure where to go from here I just don't want to get to the point that I will snap and ruin a good vibe for everyone she is just difficult to stand at least in my book anyway. How do you suggest I deal with this because I'm frankly running out of ideas.

Sorry For The Long Thread,


Swagga

Post was fine.. no biggie.

Not everyone feels the same about people.

My best friend had a friend who I just did not like. I give everyone a chance.Call it a vibe or whatever but we just could not click.

Years down the road my best friend tells me she is done with new friend and proceeds to tell me what a creep she really turned out to be. Not to be judgmental here but she did some nasty things.

Long story short,she always gave me a bad vibe and I know (I'm 54) that I have a good feel for people.. maybe you do too.

You should not have to *adjust* to anyone.My feeling is you never surround yourself with anybody who makes you feel uncomfortable.

Tell your friend you don't want to hang as a trio.Let her know it is not jealousy.You don't like her.Everybody does not like everybody. Some people just don't click.

You did not seek her out as a friend and if you met in any other circumstance you would not be friends so why should you have to endure her being around if you don't like her.You shouldn't.

Talk to you friend. Communication is key to any good relationship.

LOL! Have you seen that show "THE HILLS"? On MTv? Lauren went through the same thing with Audrina! They were roomates and best friends.Until the "other friend came around.That other friend was trying to create a wedge between Lauren and Audrina.It wasn't so much Audrina that was jealous or anything,it was that other friend! She was jealous of Lauren and Audrina being best friends.
You should talk to your best friend.
I had a best friend,too.I moved to another state more than 15 years ago.we saw one another 5 years after I moved and we were not the same.It actually was a bad visit.(Long Story)But anyway,sometimes though we hate to see it;people change.And sometimes for the better or worse.But it's not under our control.
I like how you mentioned that you tried to include this other friend.You sound really mature and unselfish.To me that shows you are a good friend to have.I hope your best friend see's your fine qualities.
Go talk to her!!
Good Luk!! SPANGLISH30

Thanks guys. I am going to arrange a time to meet with my best friend and lay it out on the table. If this girl wants to be mouthy, ungrateful, and downright rude she doesn't need to be around me. The company I keep is one of an open minded and welcoming nature and if she is going to disrespect me and the others that were around than she need not be around me. I have been as kind as I could have been, and me not addressing it is me not thinking of myself. I need to do this. I will fill you in once I discuss it.

Your kind words have really helped me get through this hump. It just goes to show you that you could welcome everyone over and under the sun but if they can come around and be rude it's best if they didn't come because those are the people who shouldn't waste everyone's time.

Swagga

Hey,

I finally spoke to my best friend and the results somewhat shocked me. Apparently people were starting to complain about her friend's attitude and she also felt that she was rude. I'm so happy that she understood. I'm glad I followed your advice and spoke to her.

Im glad you spoke to her.Are you still good friends??

Yeah we're still close. It's one of the many instances that our friendship has been tested as of late. We have gone through so many things that keep us together but after I spoke to her about the situation a month after we had to face a really grave situation. I got into a car accident where I had a one in chance surviving because the driver was impaired. It really broke my heart to tell her what happened. It bothered her as much as it did me. It brought up a topic that we wouldn't have even thought about discussing until that incident, and that topic was death. We have continued to be closer and I am convinced that this year has brought upon a lot of tests on our friendship and that it would keep us strong.

I hope you have recovered and are doing better.
My goodness what a horrible thing to experience.

I am glad you and your friend are on track again.

Friendships are to be treasured.

Best wishes for a full recovery :)

I have a physical test and that will tell all. I'm just hoping for the best knowing I have good people in my corner

OMG,I hope you are doing okay!! That is extremely a frightening situation with the car accident.Glad you are still here with us.Good luck on the exam.And with the friendship.