Noodles15
Jan 23, 2009, 09:41 PM
When my boyfriend and I were broken, I became friends with two people that I felt are the first real friends I've ever had. Now, the problem is, I've always gotten along better with guys and these two people happen to be guys. I know nothing would ever happen, there was 6 months of me being single in which stuff had the opportunity to happy, but I'm certain that both the guys and I feel nothing but friendship for each other.
Since my boyfriend and I have gotten back together I've eased away from these guys. Clearly things can't be how they were before. I would never stand for my boyfriend hanging out alone in a girl's room, and I'm not going to do something like that with a guy. The problem is, this two guys, our friendships existed solely between the two of us, I don't have a larger group amongst which I could find time to hang out with these friends.
I've told my boyfriend I'd like for him to hang out with me and either of the friends, but he said it would make him feel uncomfortable, like HE was the third wheel and not the friend. He has expressed jealously and ill-feelings towards my friends since I broke up with him and turned to these two guys for help through a hard time. The thing is, when I'm out of the picture, he knows both of these guys and calls them friends.
I understand my boyfriend doesn't trust the situation, and honestly, I wouldn't want him hanging out with a girl alone unless it was a girl that I knew respected our relationship and that I trusted her intentions towards him.
I want to keep things good with my boyfriend, we're trying to work through some tough stuff, but I also have noticed the friends feelings getting hurt because they feel like I'm choosing this relationship over them, and I don't want to lose my friendships
Any suggestions?
Since my boyfriend and I have gotten back together I've eased away from these guys. Clearly things can't be how they were before. I would never stand for my boyfriend hanging out alone in a girl's room, and I'm not going to do something like that with a guy. The problem is, this two guys, our friendships existed solely between the two of us, I don't have a larger group amongst which I could find time to hang out with these friends.
I've told my boyfriend I'd like for him to hang out with me and either of the friends, but he said it would make him feel uncomfortable, like HE was the third wheel and not the friend. He has expressed jealously and ill-feelings towards my friends since I broke up with him and turned to these two guys for help through a hard time. The thing is, when I'm out of the picture, he knows both of these guys and calls them friends.
I understand my boyfriend doesn't trust the situation, and honestly, I wouldn't want him hanging out with a girl alone unless it was a girl that I knew respected our relationship and that I trusted her intentions towards him.
I want to keep things good with my boyfriend, we're trying to work through some tough stuff, but I also have noticed the friends feelings getting hurt because they feel like I'm choosing this relationship over them, and I don't want to lose my friendships
Any suggestions?