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munnie
Jan 23, 2009, 06:09 AM
Hello,

M a 21 year girl and I have a boy friend... he loves me somuch...
Actually I loved someone else but because of some reasons I couldn't get him.. after an year I met this guy(my bf) in my college he liked me and proposed to me... I took almost 6 months to accept him... coz I never expected this kind of guy to be in my life... I always had some expectations... but he loves me somuch and he is very serious about me... thats the only reason I accepted him... later even I started loving him and now that I can't spend a day without talking to him at least once or twice... its been 5 years we are together..
His parents got to know about our relationship and his father scolded us... this happened a year ago..
Recently when his mother asked him about me, he told her that we are just friends nothing is there between us... I was very upset and didn't spoke to him for 2 days... he went out of city for his higher studies... now we are maintaining long distance relation ship... but we are not like before... we just speak to each other I don't find love care and enthu which used to be in our conversation before...

Few months ego I got a job and we are busy in our respective lives...
I have met many people and having fun as well...
I met a guy who works in the same office... he is in respectable and higher position in the office... he took few sessions when I was in training...
I like that person and somehow we started speaking to each other often...
We went out on our offs and knowing each other better...
I think I like him a lot... n I am scared if m generating any feelings toward him... I donno what he thinks about me... as far as I know he treats me a little different than others... and he took initiative for asking me to go on a date with him...

Am I going in a wrong way and what should I do?
Help me plzz

Mac Lovin
Jan 23, 2009, 07:36 AM
Are you still engaged to your current boyfriend?

If so and you love him then you will stay well clear of this new guy, sometimes parents can be hard on there kids and you should take this into consideration too... just because he told his parents different does not mean he does not love you... he will when he feels the time is right...

liz28
Jan 23, 2009, 09:34 AM
Right down you shouldn't be tied down to no one. You got engage to someone just because and is in love with someone else, do you really think this is right and your acting like a woman? No!

I feel sorry for the guy your engage to and you need to come clean with him and leave him alone. Don't drag anyone else into your confusion.

Do you even know what love is?

talaniman
Jan 23, 2009, 09:53 AM
Am I going in a wrong path?


Yes you are, as it seems any time you get attention from a guy, your nose is open, and you haven't learned how to handle it.

Your heart will be broken many times at this rate, and you will break many yourself, by lying about your commitment to them.

Its obvious your only committed to yourself, and the attention you can get.

Get help, thats not healthy or fair. You need boundaries and limits to your behavior.

xoxAiAixox
Jan 23, 2009, 02:34 PM
The reason you and your boyfriend aren't feeling as close as before is because you guys haven't seen each other in a while... maybe you guys should spend some time together and see if you still feel the same

munnie
Jan 23, 2009, 10:34 PM
Thank you guys... I was lost for a while... but now m crystal clear... I understood what I was doing... thanks to you all who opened my eyes... m not matured enough to take right decisions... was going the way life is taking me... now that I could take control over it...

N I feel very bad for what I've done... I will tell everything to him today and will appologize him for having second thought in my mind...

Once again thanks to you all...