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puntyj02
Jan 22, 2009, 05:58 PM
I was married in a bad loveless marriage one year ago. I met a man we started a relationship and fell deeply in love. He was newly divorced after 15 years of marriage.
( his ex left him for another man)I left my husband and we moved in together children and all. His ex wife came back and stalked him until she threatened to take his children. He left me for her and remarried her two months ago. I was devastated. I cut all ties with him and moved to another city. I was never going to talk to him again. Two weeks ago he contacted me at work. He said he hated his life and his decision and wanted to see me, he only did what he did because he feared she would take his kids. I let him have it and told he made his bed now he would have to deal with that monster and to have a good life. He keep calling and told me he is filing for divorce. I caved and let him come over. I slept with him and I want him in my life. I feel like we are meant to be together, but I do not want ot get hurt again. He has all the qualities I look for in a man. What should I do?

talaniman
Jan 22, 2009, 06:11 PM
I slept with him and I want him in my life.
Lonely or desperate?

I feel like we are meant to be together, but I do not want to get hurt again.
You took the risk, knowing what has already happened. What has changed? Did he lose his kids? Did he get a divorce.

He has all the qualities I look for in a man. What should I do?
You went from he made his bed, to taking him in yours, so you weren't hurt bad enough to not try this again.

Seems you would have been more cautious, and protected yourself better, but since you didn't, hope for the best.