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sexylexi89
Jan 21, 2009, 03:03 PM
So my name's lexi I'm currently a sopohomore at Ohio state working towards getting my bachelor's degree in pharmacy. Ever since the beginning of September I've been hanging out with this guy in the same program that I'm currently in. We've gotten to become incredibly close friends since then; we would talk about everything and anything, we' confide in each other. We have all our classes together and we also intern at the same place. We also go home together after classes are done. Initially, I had no intentions on developing feelings for him, but as I got to know him, I found that he was a pretty cool person. And, sometime in mid to late November we both confessed to each other that we both like each other. And things were okay for a while.

But then an incident occurred one night and it changed everything. He started becoming distant towards me, like, for instance, he would never say hi anymore when he'd see me in class or he wouldn't talk as much when we' be going home together. So, we had a talk one day to sort things out and we came to the conclusion of being friends. Um, this guyfriend of mine, has never been in a relationship, so I figure he has commitment issues. He told me that a girlfriend wasn't a priority right now and school was and I completely understand that.

So, holidays come and I had not seen or heard from him for a month. Before school resumed in January, he called me twice, on the day after he came back from his vacation in California and we talked on the phone. The next day, he resumed his actions of ignoring me. And it was like this until about two days ago. He just, basically treated me like a stranger. We, stopped talking and stopped acknowledging each other's presence. When I would approach him and try to start a conversation be would brush me off and it was clear that he wasn't paying attention and didn't try to carry on the conversation.

I decided to ignore him back for a while and keep my distance and give him space. Ever since I've been ignoring him, I would catch him just staring at me, or glancing. Then, one day while on my way home, I was waiting for the bus, and he happened to be at the same busstop as me, and I just continued to ignore him when, I caught his eye and he approached me, and said hi to me.. for the first time in almost 3 weeks. It caught me off guard. He seemed very nervous and flustered like he had stage fright but tried to keep his cool with a reproachful smile. So, I said hi back and we ended up talking and taking the bus home together. I also noticed that we ended up standing really close to each other and it was like old times. There was also a moment where we just stood and stared at each other and smiled awkwardly.

And, today, when I passed by him in the halls on my way to class, I caught his eye and he smiled at me. I still kept my distance from him for most of the day though. And on the way home, it was him who said hi to me first and started the conversation.

My question is, does he still like me? Or is he even the slightest bit still interested in me? I don't quite understand why all of a sudden he's not ignoring me anymore or why he's putting effort into talking to me and stuff.

asdfghjkl98
Jan 21, 2009, 07:55 PM
When you guys started as friends he probably never intended to have more than a friendship like you thought of him. But once you guys started liking each other he got what he wanted. Therefore he had to test his boundaries. Guys with commitment issues have this in common. Once they think they have claimed there territory it is time to test the boundaries. With you ignoring him and not having your attention he is wondering and second guessing if he still has your attention.
Just treat him how he treats you and definitely ask him what his deal was for that no talking period.

But you have been doing everything right

sexylexi89
Jan 23, 2009, 07:43 PM
Testing his boundaries? :P
Haha I shouldve seen that coming :P

So yeah I still keep my distance and stuff from him and like, yeah for a week now he's been the one starting conversations and like is always the first to say hi to me. I don't know, its like, he changed, but changed for the better. He also seems, to be paying more attention to what I say when we talk than before. And generally has a more open friendly face when he talks to me.

We were saying bye to each other today at a crosswalk, and after we said bye, we ended up staring and smiling at each other. It wasn't awkward staring or smiling.. it was like... we were both waiting for something to happen or waiting for someone to make a move. But, I decided against hugging him goodbye like we used to do and just went on my way home.

Its so tempting to make moves cause I'm the kind of girl who isn't afraid to do the moves haha, but I'm so sure ill end up looking dumb because he probably doesn't like me like that anymore :P