I and my fiancé before we had our daughter who is 2 now we would always make love we had an awesome sexual relationship and still did after she was born too! Now we own our own house and have for almost a year and we don't make love as much as we use to... we have talked and talked about it and most the time he says because he is so tired... but that never use to bother him before. He also tells me that if I wasn't so uptight about everything all the time he would prob. Want to more often too! He has always been bothered that he cannot seem to please me, make me have an orgasm, in the last 5 years he has prob. Given me 15-20 orgasms... and it bothers him that he can go all the time and it is amazing... and he can't seem to make me go. He knows that I am hard to please I don't know why though. We try different things and positions, but I don't know what is wrong with me. If I play with myself 99% of the time I can make myself have an orgasm but even if I play with myself when he is getting it from the back or I still can't go. Do you think that I just start to get frusterated because I am trying too hard? I don't know what to do... I want to be able to have more orgasims and it feels good it just doesn't happen... he worries that I will get tired of it and eventually leave him because of it but I know I won't I want to work through it and figure out what is going on... why am I so hard to please in bed??

It seems to me that you are the dominant partner in this relationship, and you are extending your control into the bedroom. Sex is supposed to be pleasure, not work... relaxing not causing tension. Your partner doesn't seem to be enjoying sex.

It is really important that you understand that a woman allows herself orgasms, a man doesn't give a woman orgasms. The woman must develop all her senses and recognize herself as a sexual being deep down in her soul. She must be willing to give up control and be passionate. :)

There are many good answers for you to review on our question board... answers that go into detail.

Best wishes to you in the future, :)

Both of you are pushing really hard to do everything. Relax! Stop talking about sex, and just let it happen when it happens. While I know sex and orgasm is important, you are letting it take over the whole relationship and you shouldn't. Maybe take a vacation, and have a little time to yourselves. Vacations are to relax, and sex Often follows.