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lifesuckzdude
Jan 18, 2009, 08:27 PM
My ex and I have been together for almost 3 years. We are both 22 yrs old. He very recently just ended our relationship not giving much explanation except for saying he's really stressed and needs time alone. He first says he wants to be with me again but he just can't handle too much stress with us fighting a lot lately and all. And I decided to wait and give him his time but now he's saying he doesn't love me anymore and that he doesn't see the same future that he used to see with us. And as much as that really hurt me, Im thinking he just might be very confused and I want to still wait for him for as long as he needs me to because maybe he does love me still. Is it possible that he may just be confused or did he really just forget all that we've been through and woke up and realized after 3 years that he doesn't love me? He's always been so good to me and how he is now is completely different from how he used to be. I just really want to know if still waiting for him is a good idea or if I should just move on?

nike 1
Jan 18, 2009, 08:47 PM
I would'nt sit around and wait for him. It is very possible he doesn't love you no more. I'm sorry to say that, I'm sure you still love him. But if he is in a confusing time in his life, the best thing you can do is let him go. If he really loves you or needs the time to realize it, he will come back to you eventually. You can't hold your life up in the process. You need to go out and meet other people. It would do you good. You won't be sitting around wondering about him, something you have no control over. Besides, he may never come back, but that's something you shouldn't concern yourself with. I know it's hard for you right now, but unfortunately only you can take the steps to ease your pain. I wish you the best, and hopefully you will feel better soon.

starbuck8
Jan 18, 2009, 09:23 PM
This is the problem when a couple gets together when they are still so young. Often times, one or the other eventually feel that they have missed out on a lot of their dating and the last of their teen years. I'm sure he loved you with all of his heart when things were good. Once people get a little older, their priorities shift.

I don't think he's forgotten that he's loved you, but he is in a different place in his life. I'm sure you've changed some, in the last 3 yrs. Also! I don't think that it means he never loved you. It just means that the relationship may have run its' course. It's sad to say, and it hurts like heck!. but it does happen, especially with young relationships.

Let him have his space. Don't put your life on hold for him. Years go by quickly, and relationships come and go. I know that all sounds very cliché, but it is because those things are true. I'm sure you know the old "If you love something, set it free" thing. Well, however corny that may sound, it does hold true. You can't make anyone love you no matter what you do. You might be able to postpone the hurt by trying to get him back, but in the end he will do what he wants to do anyway. By then, your heart will hurt more. Keep your happy memories. Don't taint them by begging and pleading for his love back.

I know it hurts, but it won't hurt forever!

talaniman
Jan 20, 2009, 10:52 AM
He doesn't love you enough to stay so move on and love yourself.

It's a waste of time waiting on what if he changes his mind. Ain't happening.

Fizzy Burst
Jan 20, 2009, 11:57 AM
Don't wait around. I did the same thing when I was 22. I met my girlfriend in college and we stayed together for 3 years. I had fallen out of love with her, and had things that I still wanted to do and see in life. You really do miss out on a lot when you have a long relationship when you start dating so young. We had talked about marriage a lot, but for me it would have just been the next right step, and not for the right reasons. It does hurt when it happens, but life does go on. Don't look at the happiness door that has closed for too long. Take a minute to look at all of the other doors of happiness that are opening around you.

smadge
Jan 20, 2009, 06:28 PM
Don't wait the longer you wait the more it will hurt and you will be devastated once you realise it is over. How has the relationship been over the past year have you been getting along? He most likely didn't just wake up one day and thought he doesn't love you anymore it was most likely a long and drawn out processes. I hate to say it but its time to move on don't wait you will only get hurt