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falling101
Jan 16, 2009, 06:19 PM
What do you do when you have a delima.. im stuck on 2 people right now.. I don't know who to choose... one of the guys is an old fling.. know him since HS.. and we always meet up with each other after messed up relationships... after HS never saw this boy until like 4 yrs later... we ran into each other at a grocery store.. yea werid.. but anyway we caught up with each other a few weeks later and just seen how life was doing for us.. I had a boyfriend at the time of 5 yrs and he was on and off with his girl.. so we never did anyting.. we stopped talking for like a yr.. and then we meet up again like in the summer time.. out of the blew I sent him a text.. and after that we hit it off.. but I just got out of a relatioship so wasn't looking for anthing and he wanted to date me and I wasn't having it at the time.. kinda wanted to do my own thang but still have him around.. so he was actually cool with that because he did he's thang as well.. but when we were togeher it was good.. so that went on for like 2 months.. I meet this guy say john.. very attractive.. so we got to know each other pretty well and started to like him a lot.. so me and ol boy from the past feel off once again... me and the new guy started to date and ol boy got a girlfriend also.. so we stopped talking for awhile like 3 months I think.. but time went on and I still liked ol boy but wanted to make it work with the new guy.. one night I ran into ol guy and I was kind of upset that I did because I was forgetng about him and moving on.. so we talked and I was just like damn why did I have to see u.. so after all that non sense both of our relationships were not doing good... me and my new guy were fighting because I would not stop talking to my ol dude.. which is understandable.. so I did.. and we became better,but he then was falling hard for me.. like telling me he loves me and I really wasn't ready for that or feeling that... so we were on and off.. and then he moved like 5 states away to better his career and he wants me to move with him.. and he said he was doing this for us.. so I could have a better life wich I think is the sweetest thing ever.. but this guy is ways there to cater to me know matter what.. he wasn't a chace or a challenge and old dude was such a challenge and that's what I like.. so for me I don't want to loose the good guy that treats me right and would do anything for me.. he just wants me to be his girl and make it official and I haven't yet because I don't know what to do... and I just don't know why I always let ol dude from the past back into my life knowing that I shouldn't,but I can't control who I like.. and know I'm stuck because I like 2 people... UGH what to do.. any advice would be much appreciated.. thanxs :D

talaniman
Jan 17, 2009, 06:04 PM
This wouldn't be a problem if you were just dating, and being honest with them both.

But if you lead one or the other on, that's not right, or if your exclusive with one, then your cheating.

Date and have fun until you figure it out, and as I said, as long as your honest, whats the problem??

If you want to be exclusive with one, leave the other one alone.