My bother-in-law and his 11 yr.old lost their home last June of 2008 in a flood. He had purchased his home from stealing money from my father-in-laws funeral and purchased the home in a flood zone. I am fighting cancer for the second time. My husband was struck by a semi-truck in December of 2007. My son (our only child) is gone to be in the Marines. My bother-in-law, who is still unemployed, has since purchased over $6,000.00 in big screen TV's and stereos. Purchased a $3,000 Nova to restore, even though he knows nothing about cars, had my husband purchase him a $10,000 four-wheeler, and a motorcycle for his son. He has purchased very expensive cell phones for his son.. the list goes on and on. He has stolen cash from my wallet, will not pay for any of his food, and he is a fat pig, etc. etc. Our electric bill last month was $1,000.00-of course he will not help pay his share. He has totally taken over my house and I cannot recover my cancer treatments or surgeries, due to all this stress. My bother-in-law acts like we won the lottery or something. They are so loud and disrespectful, I can never get any sleep, can't eat, can't bath, etc. etc. His mother has asked him to come live with her, he won't. I have told him to leave, he won't. He says he is waiting on government money! My husband is disabled and won't say anything to him. How do I get him the blank out of my house?

I doubt that when your brother in law and his son moved in last June, you expected them to stay for 7 months and counting!

Not to mention you are recovering from surgery and need and deserve the comfort of your own home in privacy.

I read this over a few times and I honestly can't think of a way to get rid of him, unless your husband steps up and backs you up. You've already asked the brother in law to go once, and he has refused. It will take both of you to muster up all the resolve you can, and tell him he is to be out by such and such a day.

He is a guest, not a renting, or leasing. He's not on the deed as an owner of the house. He pays no room and board.

Please get some backup in there when that day comes. You may need to call the police to have him escorted out. You may wish to advise him in writing of the 'eviction' day so that you have some evidence of trying to remove this unwanted guest and have not been able to. That your mother in law has been informed of this plan might also be a good idea, so she is prepared for the likely event of him moving in with her.

I'm curious if there are any options that others may have. I wish you well.

Unfortunately, unless your husband gets some backbone and kicks his brother out, there is little you can do.

I do have to disagree slightly with Jake, he is past the status of guest. After 7 months he has established residency so he will need to be evicted. But both homeowners have to agree to the eviction.

Thank you for replying, it was helpful and I will take your advice, the best I've heard so far! Will write if there are any changes:o)

You and your husband has to evict them, give them notice, tell them to leave

Your husband definitely needs to take hold of this situation. Hopefully you will recover, but if the worst happens, it's going to be him against his brother. And from what you've posted, your husband will let him walk all over him. He's already dipping into your finances and he'll continue to do so until you have nothing left.

File for eviction and make sure your husband has the strength to not let him back in down the road.