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teastalk
Jan 16, 2009, 03:18 PM
Everyone has their own opinion on how long you should wait before dating again. I guess it's so that you can clear your head and think straight in the relationship or maybe so it won't be a rebound relationship and you'll just end up hurting the other person. My questions are:

1) How long should you wait before dating again?

AND

2) If you do think there is a waiting period (some of you may not agree with a waiting period) why do you think this waiting period exists?

talaniman
Jan 16, 2009, 03:44 PM
Dating is for fun. When your ready to have fun its okay to date. Dumped tomorrow, date that night.

The catch is if your not going to be a fun loving human, stay at home and mope, and be miserable by yourself.

I say all this because there is a big difference between casual dating, and a relationship, at least, there should be.

450donn
Jan 16, 2009, 03:48 PM
This relationship stuff is tough. If you have been in a relationship for a long time, 6 months or more, than I suggest at least 6 months to clear your head before you start up again. If it is short like 1-6 months, then at least as long as you were in the relationship before dating again. Sorry, but that is my humble opinion.

Yosomoton213
Jan 16, 2009, 03:50 PM
Tal, what if you want to have fun, but not date?

As in, you drink with your friends/girls, meet new people, dance with girls, but not really expect/want it to go anywhere?

kctiger
Jan 16, 2009, 03:53 PM
Tal, what if you want to have fun, but not date?

As in, you drink with your friends/girls, meet new people, dance with girls, but not really expect/want it to go anywhere?

There is nothing wrong with that. No one is the same. You can date whenever you want. You can also date multiple people at a time, as long as everyone is clear on that. You date people to figure out if a long term RELATIONSHIP will be realistic. That is it. There are, at least in my mind, no expectations in dating. It is a fresh slate, getting to know one another, and having fun, without too much complication.

artlady
Jan 16, 2009, 03:55 PM
Like Talaniman said dating is fun and there is no good reason not to have fun.Knowing that you are not out to find a salve for your broken heart but are just living your life again.

I would not even begin to think about having a committed relationship for at least 3 months.

You really do have to learn to be happy by yourself in your own skin before you can share yourself with someone else.

Romefalls19
Jan 16, 2009, 03:56 PM
If you're on this forum asking if you're ready to date again, then you shouldn't.

talaniman
Jan 16, 2009, 04:12 PM
Whatever brings you a good time, that's what you do. Just me forget the relationships and get to the basics, having a great time and doing your own thing.

I think its ridicules to expect anything else from strangers, and friends ain't going for that pity pot stuff, so shake it up, and enjoy your freakin self, by any healthy means necessary.

Forgive my over enthusiasm, I have a hot date, with a hot chick, and its Friday...............nuff said!!!!