View Full Version : Harsh Breakup
Klad
Jan 16, 2009, 02:47 AM
I am peer pressured into dumping this guy I really like about 6 months to a year ago, I feel really guilty still, because I really liked this guy, and the way I broke up with him was, I really wanted to tell him, that I don't want to go out with him anymore, but because I really did want to I was putting it off, and when his brother found out, he stopped talking to me. I there something that I can do, that is not to humiliating and that will relieve my guilt, I cannot think of anything and I need a fresh opinion.
liz28
Jan 16, 2009, 05:45 AM
You are going feel guilty because you let other people make your decision for you instead of making them yourself. That was wrong but you should've learned from the situation. Never let other people come between you and your happiness because people will try. Don't be peer pressure into anything you don't want to do because if you do they will continue to run your life and after all it's your life not theirs.
You probably hurt this guy but I am confuse about the brother being mad at you but I can understand why. Are the two of you friends. For closure you can apologize to this guy about your actions and he could even forgive you or not.
kctiger
Jan 16, 2009, 05:50 AM
How old are you? I will say in between 12-15...
talaniman
Jan 16, 2009, 08:09 AM
Who besides your brother doesn't like this guy, and why?
SBohds
Jan 16, 2009, 02:16 PM
I would just contact him and explain. I am sure he is wondering. I don't understand the brother's role in this, but if it does't come from you it doesn't really matter. Anyway, he is probably the one who is humiliated.
Klad
Jan 16, 2009, 02:36 PM
I would just contact him and explain. I am sure he is wondering. I don't understand the brother's role in this, but if it does't come from you it doesn't really matter. Anyway, he is probably the one who is humiliated.
Sorry I explained poorly, his brother found out that I wanted to break up before I actually told my boyfriend, So he told him, and then my BF wasn't talking to me anymore
SBohds
Jan 16, 2009, 02:44 PM
Well, I would still call him and explain. I am sure his brother was just trying to protect him. But, explain about the peer pressure and all that and ask for forgiveness.
450donn
Jan 16, 2009, 03:04 PM
Humbling yourself before him is going to be part of the process. Call him and explain to him in as clear and concise way as you know how what happened and why you did what you did. Ask him to forgive you and then get off the phone, or if in person,which would be even better, leave.
talaniman
Jan 16, 2009, 03:08 PM
So you told everyone before you told your b/f? That ain't right. I think he deserves an apology, and you deal with the consequences of your thoughtless behavior.
That has to be humiliating, being the last to know how a g/f feels, and to get dumped too??
Why didn't you just shoot the guy and be done?