DesperateMom1
Jan 14, 2009, 11:46 PM
Our 18 year old son who has a serious pending legal issue, has brought home a girl.
Initially she was to leave the day after but this temporary arrangement is now turning out to be permanent. She has lots of legal issues and does not have any parental guidance. Apparently she just moves around from home to home until she is asked to leave. Her character is questionable and she is not of sober habits. Her belief is that she is the best thing for our son - in that she keeps him away from other bad company!! My understanding is that she is a 'parasite' - she is seeking the comforts of a home by preying on a confused adolesant. My attempts to ask her to leave are proving to be futile due to her ignorance of my authority in our home. Both my husband and I have be polite thus far. We have encouraged her to take stock of her life and take care of her issues. She has heeded our advice but has become more comfortable. Our son threatens to leave with her if we insist. He does have a job but has commitments towards his legal fees. She is planning on getting a job and talks about a future by moving out with him.
What are options with regards to getting her to leave? How can we avoid this situation from recurring? What will deter our son from taking advantage of our home in the future?
Please help!!
:mad::o:confused:
Initially she was to leave the day after but this temporary arrangement is now turning out to be permanent. She has lots of legal issues and does not have any parental guidance. Apparently she just moves around from home to home until she is asked to leave. Her character is questionable and she is not of sober habits. Her belief is that she is the best thing for our son - in that she keeps him away from other bad company!! My understanding is that she is a 'parasite' - she is seeking the comforts of a home by preying on a confused adolesant. My attempts to ask her to leave are proving to be futile due to her ignorance of my authority in our home. Both my husband and I have be polite thus far. We have encouraged her to take stock of her life and take care of her issues. She has heeded our advice but has become more comfortable. Our son threatens to leave with her if we insist. He does have a job but has commitments towards his legal fees. She is planning on getting a job and talks about a future by moving out with him.
What are options with regards to getting her to leave? How can we avoid this situation from recurring? What will deter our son from taking advantage of our home in the future?
Please help!!
:mad::o:confused: