crooked_halo
Jan 14, 2009, 06:49 PM
I am seeking some sound advice on how to proceed against my son's biological mother for a termination of her visitation rights.
I'll give you a little background into the story.
My ex and I had separated shortly before my son's 1st birthday, and verbally agreed to a 50/50 custody agreement. This agreement worked from August 2005 until June 1 2006, when my ex called and informed me she was being kicked out of her mothers home for alleged theft and deception. After this call, she then seemed to drop off the face of the earth, and had little to no contact with our child.
In August 2006, after not hearing from her in almost 2 months, I filed for child support through the courts.
It wasn't until October 2006 that she admitted to me she was addicted to crack-cocaine, and that she was getting better on her own. She had moved back in with her mother and step-father at this time.
Shortly after this, I allowed her to pick up and drop off our son on a regular basis, but she herself did not pick up or drop him off, it was her mother.
In December 2006, I learned from her mother that she did in fact disappear again, and that she was afraid to admit this to us, so she kept up the front that her daughter had to work during the pick up and drop off times. She was also kicked out of the home for allegedly stealing.
My ex, when confronted by me that she was not permitted to see her son during the Holidays, finally conceded to entering a drug facility on January 1, 2007 until May 2007. During this time she had sporadic visits with my son, supervised by her mother when they went to visit her in the program.
She moved back in with her mother and step-father upon her release. I allowed her to have some weekend visits with our son. During the drop off times, my son reacted so violently toward her that I had to forcefully strap him into his seat in her car, and I immediately discontinued the visits, siding with our therapist that it was detrimental to his well-being.
Instead, I set up a visit with our son and her at my home. Her parents came along. My son didn't even know what to do. He hid from her and reacted negatively toward her. She became defensive, and the family began a dispute forcing my neighbors to call the cops on her and her family.
The police arrested her for an outstanding warrant for a drug possession charged from May of 2006! She had fled her court date and had a bench warrant put out for her arrest.
After the incident, I tried to get her involved in therapy sessions that I had set up for my son because he began having many emotional problems. She blatantly refused to participate.
When she confronted me with a document from a lawyer threatening to sue for full custody in June 2007, I filed before she could. The situation was settled out of court, with her consenting to partial visitation and split holidays, giving me full physical and sole legal custody. The agreement became final in September 2007, and everything began going smoothly. She became pregnant with her second child, moved in with her boyfriend, who treated my son nicely, and began working steadily. The child support was on time, the visitations were regular. However, I began noticing my son's emotional distress continued to get worse throughout her vistiation times. He didn't react negatively toward her, but seemed to have more breakdowns upon his return home to me. She again refused to come and participate in any therapy sessions.
In November 2008, she was kicked out of her boyfriends home again for allegedly stealing from his parents, and moved in with a friend from work. Then the excuses on why she couldn't meet me halfway began. She had to work, she had no gas... etc.
In January 2009, she called and informed me she had lost her place to live again.
I learned later she had also lost her job, on accusations of stealing from the elderly persons she helps care for and that her friend kicked her out for allegedly stealing from her as well.
She has not called or attempted to set up any visitation with our son since January 1 2009.
I learned on January 14, after numerous attempts to get into contact with her that she is currently locked up in a drug/mental health rehabilitation center for an undisclosed amount of time. The reason behind her stay at the facility is not clear.
I am at my wits end. I really need some help. Thanks
I'll give you a little background into the story.
My ex and I had separated shortly before my son's 1st birthday, and verbally agreed to a 50/50 custody agreement. This agreement worked from August 2005 until June 1 2006, when my ex called and informed me she was being kicked out of her mothers home for alleged theft and deception. After this call, she then seemed to drop off the face of the earth, and had little to no contact with our child.
In August 2006, after not hearing from her in almost 2 months, I filed for child support through the courts.
It wasn't until October 2006 that she admitted to me she was addicted to crack-cocaine, and that she was getting better on her own. She had moved back in with her mother and step-father at this time.
Shortly after this, I allowed her to pick up and drop off our son on a regular basis, but she herself did not pick up or drop him off, it was her mother.
In December 2006, I learned from her mother that she did in fact disappear again, and that she was afraid to admit this to us, so she kept up the front that her daughter had to work during the pick up and drop off times. She was also kicked out of the home for allegedly stealing.
My ex, when confronted by me that she was not permitted to see her son during the Holidays, finally conceded to entering a drug facility on January 1, 2007 until May 2007. During this time she had sporadic visits with my son, supervised by her mother when they went to visit her in the program.
She moved back in with her mother and step-father upon her release. I allowed her to have some weekend visits with our son. During the drop off times, my son reacted so violently toward her that I had to forcefully strap him into his seat in her car, and I immediately discontinued the visits, siding with our therapist that it was detrimental to his well-being.
Instead, I set up a visit with our son and her at my home. Her parents came along. My son didn't even know what to do. He hid from her and reacted negatively toward her. She became defensive, and the family began a dispute forcing my neighbors to call the cops on her and her family.
The police arrested her for an outstanding warrant for a drug possession charged from May of 2006! She had fled her court date and had a bench warrant put out for her arrest.
After the incident, I tried to get her involved in therapy sessions that I had set up for my son because he began having many emotional problems. She blatantly refused to participate.
When she confronted me with a document from a lawyer threatening to sue for full custody in June 2007, I filed before she could. The situation was settled out of court, with her consenting to partial visitation and split holidays, giving me full physical and sole legal custody. The agreement became final in September 2007, and everything began going smoothly. She became pregnant with her second child, moved in with her boyfriend, who treated my son nicely, and began working steadily. The child support was on time, the visitations were regular. However, I began noticing my son's emotional distress continued to get worse throughout her vistiation times. He didn't react negatively toward her, but seemed to have more breakdowns upon his return home to me. She again refused to come and participate in any therapy sessions.
In November 2008, she was kicked out of her boyfriends home again for allegedly stealing from his parents, and moved in with a friend from work. Then the excuses on why she couldn't meet me halfway began. She had to work, she had no gas... etc.
In January 2009, she called and informed me she had lost her place to live again.
I learned later she had also lost her job, on accusations of stealing from the elderly persons she helps care for and that her friend kicked her out for allegedly stealing from her as well.
She has not called or attempted to set up any visitation with our son since January 1 2009.
I learned on January 14, after numerous attempts to get into contact with her that she is currently locked up in a drug/mental health rehabilitation center for an undisclosed amount of time. The reason behind her stay at the facility is not clear.
I am at my wits end. I really need some help. Thanks