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Rolly_Pollie
Jan 14, 2009, 06:12 PM
I work full time, and have since my son was 2 months old. I feel guilty because when I pick him up and get home, I only have energy to "hang out"...
I am breast feeding and I hate to give it up, because I feel like it's the only real connection I am able to maintain!
Have any of you ever felt this way?:confused:

DoulaLC
Jan 16, 2009, 11:00 AM
Many women will feel this way from time to time. Something will have to give when you are working full time, running a household, and caring for a child. The trick is to set your priorities and allow for some concessions in some areas in order to meet those priorities.

It may mean the housework doesn't get done as much as it used to, you don't take work home or take on extra work as you might have before, or, for now anyway, you don't get as much sleep as you would like to.

Hanging out with your son is just fine. If the breastfeeding gives you a sense of connection, then keep going with it... it is important for both of you and will give you both a sense of calm.

Maybe do just the very basics of housework during the week, and save anything more involved on the days you don't have to work. Time management is helpful and will allow you to see where you can carve out a little more time for you son, family or friends, and yourself. You may not be able to cut back on some work hours, but maybe you can find ways to multitask more at home... have a load of laundry going while you make dinner, plan a weeks worth of meals so you don't have to waste time thinking about what to make, cook enough at a time to freeze some for another meal, share some babysitting time with a friend so you each can have a bit of uninterrupted time to yourselves once in awhile, etc..

Rolly_Pollie
Jan 16, 2009, 11:12 PM
Those are all wonderful ideas. My boyfriend and I always sit around and play with the baby. We are just in awe, he's our first. I try to do yoga heere and there. That never works out for too long either, but it has helped my mood, tons...

Thanks for the tips!

startover22
Jan 18, 2009, 08:29 PM
Rolly! You are not alone. I feel like that now. I feel as if I can't get everything done an give the kids the best of my attention. I was a stay at home mother for 14 years, my last (out of four kids) is now in school, I needed to get my buns to work;) For as long as we have had kids, I have always stayed home and worked a night time job... and my husband hung out with the kids... I did daycare with just a couple of kids in the day time. You know, breakfast, art, lunch, and nap... you get the picture;)

I will be taking a few pieces of advice from Doula myself... I love and always forget to "cook and freeze"!!
Yoga has worked for me. Just wait till he is old enough to do it with you, so fun! Good luck and enjoy every moment you can with him...