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Dararamm
Jan 14, 2009, 05:10 PM
Okay, so I wanted to know if any girls out there are completely comfortable with their boyfriend's ex-girlfriend/s (assuming they stay still in touch)
My boyfriend loves me and adores hanging out with me but I'm bothered by the fact that he talks a lot about his ex-girlfriend...
I kind of understand why he would talk about her every now and then because they're best friends but since he's my first boyfriend ever I don't know if I'm just being overly emotional but I feel weird knowing that he and his ex had sex on the table, I don't want to know these things. I'd rather make my own memories with him then to talk about their old ones.
He talks about how he learned everything he knows about sex from her, how she was the only other girl except for me that he has ever loved and all sorts of stuff they did together.
Before we started dating I told him it didn't bother me that he talked about her but he's really getting into details about their old sex life and activities together.
She's a lot older then me and I compare myself way too much to her =/
Should I mention this to him or just get over it?

liciann
Jan 14, 2009, 08:18 PM
I think its normal the way you feel because I'm kind of experiencing the same thing just not that extreme. Either way I too get tired of hearing about her. Not to the point where I'm just fed up but I'm not the type of person that shares info like that but he is. I think you should mention it but don't seem like a jealous new girl play it cool!

nike 1
Jan 14, 2009, 08:21 PM
I'm not a girl but what he is doing is just rude! My girlfriend would never tolerate that. Tell him how you feel about it and to knock it off!

southerngalps
Jan 14, 2009, 08:22 PM
Yes, you should mention anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

You will keep comparing yourself to her as long as he talks about her.

He should undertand that it is not good to compare :)

chrissymarie
Jan 15, 2009, 03:05 PM
I say mention it to him. It's very disrespectful to you for him to talk about a past relationship so openly. He needs to think about what he's going to say before he says it. I understand that is his best friend and all but he needs to not mentiong the sexual stuff to you. That means he's thinking about the past sexual stuff with her and that is very disrespectful towards you too.

Your going to have to be a very strong confident woman in order to continue being with a man who is best friends with his ex girlfriend. Persoanlly I couldn't do it and I think a lot of women would agree.

devildriver16
Jan 15, 2009, 03:18 PM
Don't let a guy do that to you, honestly what girlfriend wants to hear about their boyfriends past. Im pretty sure zero. Especially the sexual stuff. The best friends part is also not always good, I'm not trying to scare you or anything but sometimes guys will do whatever they can to get what they want (sex). Confront him about anything and everything. Communication is key in a relationship.

Aphrodite77
Jan 28, 2009, 08:27 PM
Well.. he's probably not completely over her... but do talk to him about it.. tell him that if he thinks about his ex girlfriend too much he's going to push you away... and if he doesn't want to do that he'll stop.. because he's the one who has to get over it.. so just let him know and then go on making your own history.. and be a good girfriend and make him not regret being with u.. And expect the same from him :)

ISneezeFunny
Jan 28, 2009, 09:51 PM
Granted, I have mentioned my exes to my girlfriends, but not to the intimate details. Talking about sex with my previous exes... is a pretty big nono, and telling the girl you are currently with that the ex was "one of the few loves of his life"... is an absolute nono.